MARRIAGE CRISIS IN THE CONTEMPORARY AFRICAN SOCIETY VOL. 2
CONTINUATION OF VOL. 1
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Another factor that can become a touchstone to the sterling peace of a marriage in African is that, at the moment of crises, some couple make the mistake of inviting and submitting to the mistake to the third party, who even unaware of the problem compared with those involved. The resultant effect would be to aggravate the problem than solving it. The problem can actually be to settled if the parties look inwards and tolerate each other.
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When you read SARADA DEVI's quat above and you look back into some marital crises that emerge due to unguided utterances whereby the couple carry their family pride to their marriages to the detriment of the union.
Worse still, unnecessary comparison especially among women that Mr A and B are living in high brow areas and so on should not be a ground to breath down the neck of your hubby.
Women should learn to identify with the financial strength of their husband. In addition, it is better to mention that the agitation for gender equality is dangerously rearing its ugly head into the mentality of some Africans.
Beside, God never created male and female as equals. One is meant to love and lord over the other, while the other is to obey, as far as it is not sinful.
Unfortunately, it is not so anymore. Different opinion group, advocacy or agitation group allbplay abrole in the make or mar of marriages. Couples should therefore be careful of indoctrination and be able to make their marriage work.
Against this backdrop, the effects of divorce are not far-fetched. One of which is a broken home.
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This picture above signified what we are experiencing in our various family, today we are full of experiences of how broken home, as a result of divorce have ruin the future of many potential youths. More often than not, leading them to different kinds of immoral behaviors, among them commercial sexual practices from the side of the female ones, thereby exposes them to the dreaded HIV/AIDS of unwanted pregnancy.
Most boys from broken home find armed robbery as the only way of sustaining themselves, since their parents have denied them of paternal cares and concerns.
I most mention that an individual problem according to sociologist inevitably becomes a societal problem. This assertion can be accepted because the immoral behavior of an armed robber ends up on innocent members of the society.
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Indications therefore emerge that we must collectively stand up against divorce if we really want to tackle poverty as stipulated by the Millennium Development Goals.
Women must shun the attitude of materialism. This is because it does not favour them. I was in a bus, a group of young men were arguing as to what are basic things you need to give a woman to win her over? One answer that was common and that made me feel ashamed of myself is that you have to lie to a woman for her to love you.
Women should be challenged to proof them wrong! Parents on their side should allow their children decide whom they want to leave with their lives and how they want to leave. Gone are the days when parents were seeing to exercising absolute control on their children. So, family members should be friends in progress rather than enemies of progress.
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IN CONCLUSION:
It is Worthy to mention that the Gospel upholds marriage as the unity of two minds, two hearts, two bodies into one (matt 19:5-6) this unity was ordained by God who by divine choice created human beings as individuals.
God fashioned marriage and allow human beings the option of choice so that marriage will not be a mindless and involuntary lumping together of opposites and opposing genders.
He rather left it open-ended so that various levels of consideration with regard to time; when to marry and when to settle down and many other considerations.
Since this level of freedom make marriage a human enterprise that gives room for intense moments of planning and executing. May the same freedom create an enabling environment for the management of any crises that comes after marriage and never to resort to divorce. End.
REFERENCE: Volume 1 link,
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Good marriage tips. I love this.
God bless you @bob-elr
I always say that the married should endeavour to work out their union. No marriage is perfect. Nice one my counselor.
Exactely no marriage is perfect @praise-eu. But we can make it extremely high stardard with that our initial "love", uniting our selves together and put God first, believe me we can make it.
Thanks.
Awesome work... keep on steeming
Thank you @dante31 more blessings to your elbows
Lovely piece bro
Thank you
Are you serious?!? I assume you mean men are meant to lord over women while women obey?
@analogmunky i think every one is entitle to his/her own opinion depending on the angle you view this. Though with that opinion we are still moving in thesame direction.
What a disingenuous way of trying to justify your bigoted and sexist opinions.
Hee! I don't do with rude people please, don't ever used such worlds in blog agaain, in this comments bellow.
#One is meant to love and lord over the other, while the other is to obey#
Most i use "male or female" or "boys or gilrs" to justify your selfish intrest in this case.
what kin of a blind argument are insinuating.. if that's how you write your articles all this while and only gaining 0.01$ in your post don't ever think i'll follow such of yours tread. Every one is entitle to his/her opinion.
Im not bothered if you dont follow me, I didnt come here to gain followers. I came to talk, debate, share and interact with the human race. Being entitled to our opinion is what we are doing right now isnt it?
I think your opinion is wrong, I dont agree with you and there is no halfway meeting on my opinion. I think Women are not put on this earth to obey men. I think its a shame that you think this way.
Im also not being rude by calling you bigoted and sexist, I didnt swear at you or call you names. Im not being nice, for sure, but then, I think you are being a bad person, so I wont sit by and let you say women are lower than men. Is it rude to call someone out on what I think is bad behaviour?
@analogmunky you are extremely befuddled by getting it all wrong.
Debating about follow or unfollow is a myopic mind.(we are men and should follow the actuality of men).
am not a bad person dearie rather i think you ar. with your bereft and atrociois behavior via you comments. You are throughly a bad one.
Moreover i will advace you please to endeavor to ascertain and articulate your point very well i mean very very well before you move into any argument.
Dont just formulate anything by your self and start accussing someone like u did here via your comments. Try to be candid please.
Can imagine your point: # I think Women are not put on this earth to obey men# also read your accusation point here where you mentioned: #so I wont sit by and let you say women are lower than men.#(did i said this in article? If yes point it out)
Now read my own point and what i wrote in my article. #One is meant to love and lord over the other, while the other is to obey,#
In fact let me bring out the hole paragragh for you (because i know the kin brain u have)
"Beside, God never created male and female as equals. One is meant to love and lord over the other, while the other is to obey, as far as it is not sinful."
did i said "women are lower than man" or "Women are put on this earth to obey men" or vise visa like you pointed here did i?. I said ONE is meant to...thats while i said its entitled to your opinion, understand it please.
(This is a pure accusation and off point you have here. Are you the one to apportion out my own opinion? NOO.
I find out that you are totally befuddled to this but try and read,understand my article before you come out to show case your self. Have a reasonable point if not dont show-up.
@joseph-eu dont mind the guy.. He is just being confused by what he learnt from somewhere only him knew... Continue with d hard work, nice writeup
Bro can you imagine this kind of confuse friend and worstis that he dont take corrections
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STOPYou're very correct, bringing in a third party into a crises situation is to aggravate the problem.
Thanks for the solution you profer.
Thank you so much for the understanding @oniraphaeleu
great post joseph-eu! keep it up! and thanks again for following!
Thank you so much @steemking