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RE: I've Been Tagged - Love it/Shove it Challenge
I love this list, and I don't regret tagging you at all! I love naps too haha, they are so comforting and refreshing. Excusitis, nice word! I agree that it is a bit of an epidemic, although some people have legitimate excuses that hold them back in life, yet they are still looked down upon, and that's saddening to see...
I like that you listed sheeple too. Similar to mouth breathers in my list, yet there are some differences, as mouth breathers are more brutish. 😂
Thank you so much for telling us more about yourself, and for helping out with kickstarting this challenge @thedarkhorse!! Have a great day! :)
Glad to hear it.
I know people with real reasons that could be used as excuses yet instead they have made success of their lives and even are people that inspire others. Picture being blown up by an IED loosing 3 limbs and after a very long recovery coming back to become a motivational speaker. This is the exact type of person that could of used his new handicap as an excuse.
Our futures are what we make of it.
Not to be the devil's advocate, but what about disabled veterans with PTSD who are homeless? Are they just making excuses?
The person I'm talking about that was hit with the IED has PTSD and is a disabled vet, will be in a chair for the rest of his life and lost multiple friends that day. He could have gone down the rabbit whole that leads to homelessness or instead he went a different direction. There are a number of stories of people with PTSD that have gone on to do great things. Heck you don't even talk to my Dad about Viet Nam and he will not watch a war movie, but he has led a productive life.
We all can either look at problems and use them to excuse bad behavior or as a motivation to become more.
I am not discounting what it takes to overcome the issues someone with PTSD has to deal with, but to say that PTSD is a reason to end up homeless is flawed causality.
Causality is used to justify all sorts of problem and at some point people need to realize how it's just society making excuses instead of taking care of problems. It's easier to look at a homeless person and say oh he has PTSD and is a disabled vet so this is what happens vs understanding that that person never needed to end up homeless and the military and our society failed that person. They needed treatment and probably a lot of one of one treatment that the government just wasn't willing to spend the resources on as it's cheaper to go out and find a fresh batch of boys to fight their wars.
For causality to work it each Cause must have the same Effect all the time, not just some of the time. Not every homeless person is a Disabled Vet with PTSD and not every Disabled Vet with PTSD becomes homeless. Causality argument fails.
There is a growing mental health issue in the world today and people don't seem to want to address it. Slapping labels on people and pumping them full of
poisondrugs to solve the issue is the lazy solution.People have been sold on the Causality argument for decades by the governments of the world. It lets people compartmentalize issues and social groups making life simple and it easier to be apathetic. It also allows the government to create divides between classes of people and ethnicities. Apathetic voters or voters who see buy into causality are great for keeping those who are already in power running things. They don't want a group of voters who see a brighter future built by empowering people as then the people wouldn't need the government to be part of every aspect of their lives.
Obviously this is a topic I can talk about for some time, but back to the direct question. Is that person making an excuse, Yes and No. Yes it's an excuse as the issue could be overcome, but No because far to many of these returning vets don't get access to the care they need to help with PTSD.
What a wonderful comment that indicates you have a healthy, well rounded view. I'm glad to see that you realize in the end that hardship is not always so black and white, because it seemed that way at first.
Not to get too personal, but In the last 3 years I've stayed at a women's shelter for 3 months and was hospitalized in a mental institution for postpartum psychosis for almost a month. The people in my life really showed their true colors. Most were supportive, but I was also met with unkindness and anger by a couple of family members, surprisingly more with the latter issue. During these two times in my life I wasn't making excuses, I really needed help. Obviously I'm not longer struggling, but sometimes people fall into tough times, and it's no fault of their own.
The key is you had issues and dealt with them. If you had taken those issues and allowed them to become your excuse you would still be having the same issues and worse. Once you accept that there is an issue to be dealt with it can be overcome. The process to overcome the issue isn't typically easy, but if you are willing to work at a solution almost always there is one to be had.
Postpartum issues are serious and sadly most people just don't realize that it's real. People wonder how a Mother could kill their baby, "she was just a normal sweat person I can't believe she did this" is typically how people that know the Mother talk. That Mother wasn't herself and needed serious mental health help, but didn't get it as it's not something people talk about. It's one of those dirty little secretes that nobody lets parents to be know about and to watch out for.
Good job getting help and dealing with your issues. Sorry that you had to find out the hard way who your true friends are, but at least now you know.