Romantic Love Is Masturbation... With Extra Steps
I had a conversation with a friend today. We were talking about women and what do they prefer. My response was "Who cares" but he has a different strategy. Dress well, have confidence, buy a few good accessories, go to the gym and you pretty much have everything under control. This simple tactic can fool the average person into forming a good opinion about your person. If you have money as well, most of these things will come out naturally.
Thing is, with these basic moves, we bait certain people that adhere to those values. In other words, if one can pretend to be someone then they can attract certain individuals. This is why business attires work so well, uniforms and the like. Dressing in specific clothes reflects specific personalities even if that is not true. It is much the same as going hunting and carrying with you specific whistles that attract different birds.
Most people can even get married and have families before discovering who they have been with. It takes years for some people to break into the true shell of someone. Most of us choose to believe the facade rather that learning about the actual person. Pop culture and the internet has also created meme personalities. It becomes even harder to discover the true identities of those around us.
If we examine the reason why we choose to love someone the answer is pretty simple. We love those who adhere to our own ideals. Whether that is boobs, ass, brains, taste or anything else, is irrelevant. We fall in love with individuals that attract our deepest desires and likes. We end up with those that remind us our selves in some way. We can love many different people at once because we are quite flexible beings. Culturally is not accepted as much but it is the raw truth.
Is there such a thing as a "true identity" in the first place? Most of our so-called personalities are just repeating behavioral patterns that can be altered with effort and practice.
I agree. The whole monogamy thing goes against nature/creation.
I agree, make believe is ok for a one night stand but be yourself if you’re looking for a more long term relationship, cheers mike
Digging for diamonds is dangerous.
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I understand the analogy in the title but only on a very general and metaphoric level. That masturbation is just self satisfaction on a physical level. One can argue that emotion is also a physical phenomenon of the brain. And thus romantic love is emotional masturbation. As you are trying to satisfy your mind’s physical needs.
Regarding what women want. I think the key is how much you’re willing to lie to yourself or change yourself to attain something, or someone in this case, that may not be your own personal desire but based on society’s influence. If you modify your appearance or personality to meet a socially acceptable norm or apparent superiority then you are changing who you are to attract someone that wants that socially acceptable norm or facade that you’re portraying.
The question or struggle is more within. How much are you willing to change to make it easier or quicker to find someone. Potentially compromising the quality of those you attract.
Or do you stay true to yourself, attract less people but potentially find a better quality match.
Romantic love is ... eating rocks.
Just kidding.
Good post :) I really like your posts, keep the spirit and be the best
Love is not about staring at each other, but staring off in the same direction.
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry would agree with you
there is difference between lust of body and lust of love, and I do agree that we attract in love with someone who fulfill our desires
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