Marriage #Dairy: Is cheating Justifiable? A probe into the Advent of side chicks. Episode 02

Hello Stemicians, as we continue our tour together, I want to let you into the world of matrimony. Marriage dairies will be constant on my blog every weekend. This is to substitute marriage 101 and will be accompanied with family daries. Both will be on weekends so please follow up both the dairies and my tour.

How about we get started; today we shall be talking all about cheating and side chick in this episode.

The world is filled with men and women with large sexual urge,willing to get it satisfied by any means they can find. Some married while some unmarried, weather married or unmarried, they have one thing in coming, the sex drive!

SEX DRIVE

Sex drive is very powerful especially in young people. For men, it is always active and Strong, but for women I over heard few people who claims it is more at powerful at 28(I would appreciate females who read this to enlighten us).

The sex drive is no different from the sex urge, the sex drive makes you look at the opening picture of this post severally. We must understand that the sex drive is natural, but how we use it is our choice and or undoing.
People who can't stand the sex drive, or who feel they have unsatisfactory sex drive go extra miles to satisfy them, this has lead to the advent of side chicks.

Side Chicks
Side chicks are so popular today. Side chick is simply a second girl your husband is having an affair with or a woman is having an affair with someone not her husband. We could call them concubines in a context.
For unmarried people who are in a relationship side chick is your boo's bae that is not you.

Sugar Mummies and Daddies

Sugar mummies are older women looking for esctacy and perhaps orgasm they feel their husbands can no longer satisfy them and so they hire a younger man to get them satisfied. Same goes for the man(topic for another day).

**Why marriages crack for sex **

Bad enough, so many marriages have had a crack for this same reasons. But the question is why would infidelity arise for sexual reasons?

There are a million of reasons related to sex, however it still depends on personal differences.some couples fail to discuss their sexual needs.

As a couple, you're going to become one,you're already one. Some couples claims "its my private part not yours" are you kidding me? When you walked down the isle with that man, that girl, you both swore your bodies, and that includes your private parts. You both own it. So you both should sit and have a serious talk of how you will love to use it. Don't find it irritating, dont be shy and don't tell me your too holy to talk about it; hey, he is your husband!

It sucks when you can't talk about how you going to give it to him or how ypu would want to satisfy her. I mean feel at ease, tell yourselves the truth.what are your needs sexually, even your fantasies. If you dont you will soon start fantizing with someone else.

I have come across several ladies who claim they can't give their partner a head(side chick will). I was like, "you're joking" I am taking this seriously because most homes has headed into the ditch for it.

What makes her come? Where and how does she love it? How does he wants it? These and many more should be answered in your conversation.

Another reason why marriages could crack for sex is selfishness. Most people(men especially) are very selfish on bed, they want to satisfy only themselves. Once they bounce and its done they are good, thus living the woman high and dry. Good sex enhances love in marriages, therefore anytime you're going to have sex, take your time, give her foreplay let you both enjoy it. Dont just go to satisfy your own urge, prepare for every love making you can, if your taken unawares still give it your best.

Try out experiments, ice cream love making, pure bay, wine suits, just make it special. Let your partner always look forward to next time with you.

Thirdly also remember its not always about the sex, romance could be all that is needed with such juicy room plays, involve it. Play it out, sometimes like children.

Some Factors That leads to Side Chicks

Every married couple should look out for these factors. They could lead to side chicking

1. Nagging
   A nagging husband or wife often set the home on fire. Nagging is a very bad habit. This should be avoided at all cost. The moment you begin to nag, you might soon chase your partner into the hands of a side

Rigid personality
Some people could be very rigid in decisions. They always want to have their ways in everything. They dont even consider if their partner is cool with it.

Low Self Esteem
That moment you start undervaluing your partner, someone is going to start valuing them. If they feel someone is showing genuine interest in them.

Always working late
So many couples have lost it this way, in the quest for money they dont create time for their partner, soon they start fueling their sex drive anywhere they find fuel.

Distance
Very powerful, I have seen so many married men and woman who take tosid chicks because their partner is far away.

Money
This happen to people who are not contented with what they have. This can happen to both rich and poor, the watchword is contentment.

Dealing with a side chick

Its so disheartening to find out that your partner has got a side chick. Infact the partner would have sabotage the trust you both shared.

Truth be told, lots of people lose it at this point. We have taken time to talk about what could lead to side chicks, I would strongly advice you never let it happen. But the big question is; what if it happens?

We would look into this topic in our next episode. In episode three(3) we will consider these two topics;

1. Is cheating justifiable?
2. How to deal with cheating and side chick issues.

From marriage 101 I got a lot of reviews from you wonderful people. Thank you do much for your support and upvoted, comments and reviews, one of which was to reduce my 20minutes read articles.

I hope you find this article interesting @resteem-ocd, I would also love to know how you have dealt with side chicks and if you think infidelity and cheating is justified.
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