Making an effort to stay...

in love •  last year  (edited)

"If someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make an effort to be in it. So don't bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay.- Anonymous.image.png

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The desire for validation is one of man's biggest undoing and many will do whatever they think is possible to get someone to like them. The pursuit for human validation is one major reason why today, many are in the habit of disguising themselves to appear different before everyone they come in contact with. It is that serious that, some have to change every minute to fit into the schedule of others.

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If someone wants you that much, they will make an effort to stay. You cannot force love, you cannot hurry love, you have got to wait for it to take over and when it finally does, the likeness will not be forced. It will work based on the persons feelings about you and how well they think you guys fit together.
I read a story just this morning of how a young girl who seemed to have everything going for her committed suicide because, the man she thought was in her life wasn't. You see, the young lady had invested her time, love and finance to make sure she kept the young man in her life including aborting 3 pregnancies in a space of one year so he doesn't leave her. She even mortgaged her home to help him kick start his business not knowing he was already married with kids.
As these things go, she found out about his infidelity just too late and when she couldn't take it, she took her own life. Sad, story and I felt really sorry for her.
The desire to be loved by some particular individuals sometimes leaves us blinded to the fact that, they are not the right ones for us. We fight till we lost it all because we somehow see ourselves as unable to exist without them.
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There is no one worth dying for, and there is no one that cannot be loved. Make efforts to be happy and live happy no matter what happens. If they love you that much, they will make an effort to stay in your life irrespective of your shortcomings and or disabilities.
There were those relationships I thought I would end up with while growing up and back then, I cried puppy tears knowing I was missing out of being in their lives, but as I grew up, I have come to discover that, when someone truly loves you, they will stay and help you live through your dark and most trying moments.

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I totally agree with you boss! If people really love you, they'll stay with you without having their hands forced. Better not to sweat it and free people, those who will stay will stay.

I agree that sweating it because we need to be loved is no way to go. No one can hurry love, being you is always going to come back as a win.
Stay awesome!

True talk sir. Thank you!

It is sad but love is not bought or forced to love another person a relationship is not only supported by love, you also need trust, respect and tolerance.

You are right, a relationship is incomplete without trust, respect and tolerance and we must be set to take it all when we find that one we love.
Stay awesome!

You are right! Humans naturally crave love and acceptance but we shouldn't do that at the expense of our happiness. I think the best thing is to love and accept ourselves first, that way we will be able to discern who's best for us and we won't be hurt when people walk away.

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I think the best thing is to love and accept ourselves first...

I think if this is known and followed through, it won't be hard for us to find those who really love us for who we are.
Stay awesome!

Much wisdom Sir. Love has to be a two way thing. I know sometimes you might want someone in your life so badly, but you see, this is what makes love blind. You are blinded to the fact that the person just doesn't want to be in your own life as much; and blinded to all those who would give anything to have what that person treats like trash. But anyways. I still think love is worth fighting for. RESTEEMED

Love is worth fighting for when it is yours to fight for. It isn't mostly about fighting per se, but more of being on the track that is right, that way, it will feel good when you sweat blood for that person.
Stay awesome!

smiles wisdom speaks

"There were those relationships I thought I would end up with while growing up and back then, I cried puppy tears knowing I was missing out of being in their lives, but as I grew up, I have come to discover that, when someone truly loves you, they will stay and help you live through your dark and most trying moments".
I also had similar experience with my high school girlfriend. But the whole story is history now. @ejemai I think we should try to find out where we stand in a relationship in other not to get hurt in the process. Thanks for sharing 👍👍

Those experiences have been somewhat of a learning point and for those who went through it, there is some lessons learnt and wisdom attained. Love will find you.
Stay awesome!

  ·  last year (edited)

I sure hope so. Thanks

As love never an arithmetic neither a sentence that you look for the best words to compliment...
You can only search for a partners, friendship not love.

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This is good..nice write up

Good post.
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  ·  last year (edited)

It's not love that sucks, it's getting into it with the wrong person. No matter how much we try to win their validation, it won't work. Because they're just not the right person.

I often have trouble understanding the above string of characters. Exactly who decides who is right or not? I believe the whole thing should be mutual. Conscious. Agreed upon. If it's not working, then maybe someone really isn't trying to make it work. Regardless of everyone's difference, I think we can be with just about anyone we choose to be with. They just have to choose you back.

In all, this is a lovely post sir. As you've rightly opined; When They don't stay, don't sweat it. That's one thing I learnt recently.

They aren't the wrong ones simply because they aren't the right ones for you. That would be Word trickery at best. Rather, they are the wrong ones because they chose to not stay, regardless of what you do.

Unique post.

Hmmmm. She really made a 'puppy' mistake. That infidel must have heaved a sign of relief; that is, if only, the lady's spirit will allow him.