The desire for validation is one of man's biggest undoing and many will do whatever they think is possible to get someone to like them. The pursuit for human validation is one major reason why today, many are in the habit of disguising themselves to appear different before everyone they come in contact with. It is that serious that, some have to change every minute to fit into the schedule of others.
I Feel Blessed!
If someone wants you that much, they will make an effort to stay. You cannot force love, you cannot hurry love, you have got to wait for it to take over and when it finally does, the likeness will not be forced. It will work based on the persons feelings about you and how well they think you guys fit together.
I read a story just this morning of how a young girl who seemed to have everything going for her committed suicide because, the man she thought was in her life wasn't. You see, the young lady had invested her time, love and finance to make sure she kept the young man in her life including aborting 3 pregnancies in a space of one year so he doesn't leave her. She even mortgaged her home to help him kick start his business not knowing he was already married with kids.
As these things go, she found out about his infidelity just too late and when she couldn't take it, she took her own life. Sad, story and I felt really sorry for her.
The desire to be loved by some particular individuals sometimes leaves us blinded to the fact that, they are not the right ones for us. We fight till we lost it all because we somehow see ourselves as unable to exist without them.
There is no one worth dying for, and there is no one that cannot be loved. Make efforts to be happy and live happy no matter what happens. If they love you that much, they will make an effort to stay in your life irrespective of your shortcomings and or disabilities.
There were those relationships I thought I would end up with while growing up and back then, I cried puppy tears knowing I was missing out of being in their lives, but as I grew up, I have come to discover that, when someone truly loves you, they will stay and help you live through your dark and most trying moments.