Love for a while or a Life time? Love is a choice! Its not just something you say!

Love forever?

Now a days people don't want to be alone, but don't want to stay in a relationship, it is known that humans are not designed to be monogamous but in a very diferent level than just having sex and children every where, loving some one is a choice, cause your nature is to be whith a lot of people is an instinct, but you choise to stay just with one.

Few days ago I was talking to a friend "Hugo" who's older than me, he has been married for almost 25 years this kind of couples is not quite common these days considering that they have been working together, both in same bussines, in same place, all that time and they can continue talking for hours. I mean I always have had long relationships (for these times 3 years its a lot) but after the 2nd year, talk for hours its harder, cause of the diferrences and the habit.

We both agree that been with some one else it's beyond than just sex, children and family. Having a wife is not just that contract you sign when you get married its something deeper if you can get over the line of comunication.
why over this line? most of the problems on a relationship is that we don't have the patience or the right way to express our feelings, also some times we dont want to admit that we are wrong, and after that everything goes wrong cause it's just frustrating for both.

I remember my dad told me when I was a kid that marriage is a constant "stretches and loosens" it means some times you have to be right and keep your position, and you have to know that some times even if you're right you have to let the other win the discussion, is not about to be right, is about to be in peace with your mate and stay together.

And if you finally can get over this line you get a partner for life that person will stay with you. I think it's important cause your friends leave or at least can't be with you all time, when you get older your children have to leave and live their lives, just as you leave your parents at the end that woman or that men it's the best thing that can happen to you if you care about it.

Love is important, get a great relationship seems easier, but it is not. you have to be patient, with disposition and strength to make a really important choice. Its harder but it will worth it.

Tell me what you think? do you love for a moment or a life time? what you think is harder in a relationship?