Lets talk about sex positively: fantasizing
As long as I can remember I made up stories in my head. Sitting in a corner mesmerizing about a story I read or a movie I had seen. I would write myself into the story in my head, or be one of the characters. If school was boring I could float away in my head and do something completely different. I might be an extreme fantasizer, if there is such thing, but it always made me happy or cope with situations that I did not like. I could reenact situations, and say what I should have said, but most of the time I just made my own beautiful stories with me in the lead.
It actually helped a lot with certain subject, especially history. If I was in the middle ages in my story, I did need to know how likely it was that a common house had a toilet in the back yard, or what they would eat, what did they wear. Would a girl ever travel alone? Would I be able to travel back and forth in time or get stuck? etc etc. I wanted to know a lot of details, unfortunately, these things never came in an exam, but I never was a bad student, even though I could spend hours fantasizing. Nowadays, I don’t watch a lot of Netflix, because I have been there, done that, already fantasized the whole story cast and main character.
When I became older, obviously attraction and sexuality became part of the fantasy. I was excellent in fantasizing love stories, and it was all very demure. It took me a long time to actually become active, maybe because my fantasies kept me satisfied. I wondered if other people also fantasized about sex, or if I was a bit weird. I found a book, which was already old, where a woman had gathered sexual fantasies from men and woman, Nancy Friday. I read it and was amazed at how many people fantasized, and how many people had the same fantasies.
I recently asked if my husband fantasizes about sex. And he said he did not really fantasize. Surely, he thinks about it, but more in the: “I would like to do it with her and her” kind of way. So, it wasn’t that he was shy, as he admitted looking at other women and fancy them.
It baffled me, as I thought everybody fantasizes about sex, and I was disappointed at the same time. I tried to spark it in him, and wrote part of my fantasy to him, but the response was so meager, that I stopped. So unfortunately, this is not a thing I can share with him. It’s not a problem, just a miss-match and missed opportunity.
What you said is exactly right. I can believe in you when I read your post, I understand the truth of what you said. And it is the reality. Thanks a lot for your advice especially newbies like us.
What advice?
I can't imagine anybody is NOT fantasizing... I really can't. But telling it is the thing. I think everbody does fantasize... Yep.. I do :)
And why is it so difficult to tell? while it is a lot of fun to fantasise together.
yes, true. I don't know why it should be difficult? maybe they are ashamed of it, I really don't know....
Well I do have some fantasies about the whole sex stuff but I tend to control every bit of my emotions not to get out of control seeing am not single and not ready to have a girlfriend. Although these fantasy once pushed me into pornography and masturbation but after a while I stopped that.
On the fantasy stuff, I do tend to think how my first meeting with my wife would be but i easily wave it off to keep feelings under check.
But if sbd should get to 100 dollar this year, i might just get married. Lol.
Ma, please check your discord I sent you a message there or if not on discord, can I send it as a message through wallet?
I don’t see fantasizing as anything bad, nor masturbation, neither for men nor woman. Pornography, that is a different topic, I think I will try to write something positive about it next :-).
Hmmmm ok then.
me identifico tanto con este relato. jeje realmente pienso la gente tiene mucho tabu, es miedo a ser juzgado no se pero todos fantaseamos!! hace un tiempo lo mismo me preguntaba sera yo soy diferente o todo el mundo le pasa por la mente cosas parecidas, hasta en una oportunidad le comente a mi novio siempre salio con cosas distintas a la que yo quería escuchar, eso quizás por miedo a como yo fuese a reaccionar.. no lo entiendo de verdad yo lo hago fantasear despues de todo no creo sea tan malo.
i hope you do still fantasize. I do still fantasize, alone.....
Congratulations,
you just received a 25.08% upvote from @steemhq - Community Bot!
Wanna join and receive free upvotes yourself?
Vote for
steemhq.witnesson Steemit or directly on SteemConnect and join the Community Witness.This service was brought to you by SteemHQ.com
@hefziba you were flagged by a worthless gang of trolls, so, I gave you an upvote to counteract it! Enjoy!!
Hello ma
Hi you have being silent for too long. Whats happening ma.
Congratulations @hefziba! You have received a personal award!
Click on the badge to view your Board of Honor.
Do not miss the last post from @steemitboard: