WHAT IS LOVE?

##What is love:
##Wisdom for singles and married.

The opposite of married is not single. Its unmarried. Being single is a state that one needs to be understand before he enters into a relationship. If you get married and the both of you don't understand singleness, you'll have issues.
Even in marriage. You maintain the principle of singleness. Your wife is not your better half,she's the one that complements you but she has to be one she has to be whole. You have to understand your wholesomeness before getting hooked.
As a lady
Your motto is " what a man can do, a woman can do better"

Guys, she would not magically get transformed into every new crush you have.

Your eyes were wide open. You saw that she was ebony. But you were so caught up by that tingling sensation that you didn't take time to evaluate.
Yesterday, you saw one very fair babe presumably "more endowed than your wife" and you catch yourself saying "where were you all my life?. If I've met you earlier, I wouldn't have married my wife".
You better close your eyes and go home to your wife.
My advice for you. Educate your mind. Make it realise that your wife is the most beautiful Lady in the world.
Your mind is more powerful than you realise. The next time you see that beautiful babe. Your mind will classify her under your wife. The power of choice.
When you hear men say " my wife(fiancée) is the most beautiful woman in the world". They know what they are doing. They consciously keep confessing it until it gets to their consciousness. Because either you like it or not, you'd see a lady that's finer than your spouse someday.(e be like say God day release new model babes year by year). You'll now see your wife version 4.0 . .. But by that time your mind is structured to appreciate your wife more than any other lady.
Dissatisfaction is the beginning of premarital affairs. When all of a sudden, you realise that your wife is not perfect. You expected her to be?(are you joking?).
Did she fall from heaven?. She has her inconsistencies. When she manifests them. You begin to loose interest.(be careful what you call love). But if you've educated your mind. That all you need in a woman is in this woman. Even when another one with better prospect comes. You'd smile and turn her down. "I've got all I need, thanks for the offer tho".
She's very imperfect. Agreed!.
But until you form a beautiful picture out of her imperfection and love her unconditionally. You're at risk.
Most of these ladies that come to you. Do so because they've noticed a slack in your relationship with your wife.

Why do you think they approach you bringing food at one point or the other, you might have shown your displeasure in your wife's food.
As a married man. Gifts of boxers, singlets, perfumes, etc should be by your wife and your wife alone.
If you can't ask her "how do I look?" Before you leave home and you don't think twice before asking your secretary in the office. Warning signal....!
Lastly Ladies. Marrying a man does not mean graduating from a single lady to a grand mother.
All of a sudden, you're in the house with your husband alone. And the way you dress INDOORS is worse than your mom's current dress.
She's even the one that would be advising you. Loosen up a little
now.
And then you'd see one nice "attractive" lady who happens to be his secretary. In fact she wears that mini skirt that's barely covering her underwear with no other reason than to tempt your man and you'd say the man should not go after her. You're joking.
He's your man. You don't just keep him in tongues. You keep him in the ##other room
You're free men. You're married. God and man have given you the permission. Love on him, Dot on him, Seduce him, do whatever. ... otherwise someone else would help you.

I drop my pen here before some people pursue me.

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