Finding Happiness

I never grew up in a blended family, so it was very hard for me to imagine I would be in one as an adult. I never thought that I would be in a place where I would be helping to raise two young children that are biologically not mine. It was very scary at first to even think that I would be in a relationship as an adult male having to get up early, make breakfast, lunches, help coach, change diapers, bath and be a real role model to two young boys.

Love has a funny way of finding us, and I think all these things come to happen when you are not looking for it but when you are ready for it. At some point in every adult life we must take a hard look at the life we may be living and the life that we truly want to live. Accepting responsibility and taking a call to arms metaphorically speaking is a key part of the journey in our existance on this earth. This is what makes us grow, find meaning and a real purpose in this life.

Life is suffering as Buddha would put it, from the moment we are born until the moment we no longer are alive we are in a state of suffering. we are dying the entire time we are alive, people around us are dying, we lose loved ones, we lose friends and family to sickness or tragedy.

It is in these moments where we choose responsibility as adults that our lives become full of love, we create our loving hearts and we find meaning in the suffering of life. All adults have a responsibility to our self to find meaning in our lives and to make the most of the short time we are on this earth. There are some of us who miss the target their entire life searching for happiness in material objects such as nice cars, or big houses. This is not what brings true happiness, as many very wealthy people can attest to. It is in the relationships we share with others, it is the closeness and the bonds we share with the people who are in our lives and care to know us closely which bring real long lasting happiness.

This is why it is so important to make sure that we are aiming at the right target, having our scope set on what will provide real and true happiness as you age and become an elder in this world we live in because it does come to us all, much like death.

So when you are cultivating and planting seeds in your life, looking for love and a partner in life it is important to really see what is important in the relationship. How do you relate to your partner? do you have a mutual respect for one another? do you enjoy spending time with each other? does this person allow you the space to be you and the best you that you have ever been? Meaning, does the realationship make you feel full? do you look in the mirror and say to yourself that you are happy with the person that you are living as today. Using these questions as a compass will help you find love that will last and love that will make you find meaning in your existance.

*image taken from https://www.success.com/article/4-ways-to-plan-your-happiness