@defiant30 Hi there! I came across your story while still learning all things new about Steemit. I've only been here for a couple of days. Sorry to hear about both your parents. My friend, Bonnie also died of Cancer a few years ago. Looks like you need a helping hand. In your story, you didn't speak of any siblings so I'll assume you are an only child. If possible, you can ask a friend or a relative over for when you run errands, that way, you won't be surprised when you arrive home each time. I understand exactly what you mean when you say you took on her Cancer. An only Caregive is always stuck without time and energy. Please do not give up. You have up until now been a very responsible individual towards your mom. The death of your father looks to have really driven your mom's soul to lower levels.

What a person with Cancer needs first is their positive outlook, first and foremost. Without that they are truly losing a battle that can't be won. Your mom needs glimpses of her memories, happy ones with your father, photos, videos ... If you can get her back to that happy place, she will have a good chance containing her Cancer. And you will have an easier time, caring for her. What I mean by 'containing' her Cancer is that Cancer develops from the body's lack of good nutrition, the lack of good quality sleep, the lack of exercise, the lack of sufficient water, the lack of sufficient sunlight, the lack of oxygen and too much processed foods. Her depression is a 'symptom'
of all those above deficiencies combined.

When a person has all the above and more their body will fiction the way it's suppose to and her depression may reduce leading to her ability to take on more fun activities thus making her happier, depression gone.

I have made a long comment to another user named GaryWilson with steps to take in order to 'reverse' his Cancer. You may have a peek at it ⏩

https://steemit.com/introduceyourself/@garywilson/cancer-my-sentence-to-death-whether-i-ultimately-live-or-die-my-desire-is-to-publish-a-weekly-post-on-steemit-and-share-the#@eclecticity/re-exoexo-re-garywilson-cancer-my-sentence-to-death-whether-i-ultimately-live-or-die-my-desire-is-to-publish-a-weekly-post-on-steemit-and-share-the-20160811t092138025z

As I told Mr. GaryWilson, We are all born with Cancer cells within our body, probably passed down from our mother. These little cancer cells float in the body and are controlled by our own immune system. As you know, your immune system stays high up there protecting you if all the necessary requirements are met. Once you eat too many processed foods, for example, the Cancer cells in your body starts to grow, for the lack of proper organic foods the body needs to keep the immune system up and working properly. If more time passes and the person still does not fix their diet and lifestyle, these growing Cancer cells will begin to multiply faster. In hopes of saving your life, your body's immune system , surrounds and captured the spreading cells creating what doctors call a tumor. So when the doctor recommends surgery to 'cut out' the so called tumor, he is in fact, popping the surrounding protective layering which is holding the Cancer cells captive and releasing them to further spread to other organs and parts of the body. Once toxic chemotherapy and poisonous radiation is added to this mix as both treatment lowers the immune system drastically, the patient's chances of survival decreases by 95%, I believe. From that point one, it's very difficult but not impossible to 'save' the patient. From what I understand, if chemo and radiation is used, the patient only has a 2-4% survival rate within 5 years but some pass away much sooner.

If your mother is well enough to eat, you should provide her with plenty of fruits and vegetables, and if possible she should eat many of them raw.

If your mother doesn't already sleep well, you need to find ways of having her in bed by 9:00 pm. This being that the the body needs to glide into a deep type of sleep before it starts is repair to organs and such so that the body can get rid of toxins, dead Cancer cells and the like.

A Cancer patient immune system needs a lot more help than a regular healthy person therefore, adequate natural vitamin D is needed. Take her outdoors if possible to a park where she can absorb sunlight, no sunscreen, please as this will block out the life saving sunlight. Just 30 minutes in sunlight is what she needs. If you live in a region with low sunlight, you can provide your mom with high doses of vitamin D.

Exercise, without exercise, the human body can not boot out toxins, poisons and dead Cancer cells. You need to make your mom do daily walks if possible at least 20 minutes of walking a day.

Please do not provide her with foods that have excess amounts of sugar or cut out sugar completely for now. This is critically important as any sugar she eats will in turn feed the growing Cancer.

For yourself, if you do mammograms for breast Cancer detection, you may try to consider having 'Thermograms' done on your breasts instead as it is less harmful. Doctors are now coming out and saying that the radiation from mammography machines actually are creating the Cancers they are trying to prevent.

Yes, please do look into that link above as I have added more details there on how to reverse Cancer.

But before starting any natural treatments or protocols, please consult with her Doctor.

To learn the more about Cancer and how to reverse it, you are welcome to watch the following documentary video called 'The Truth About Cancer' by Ty Bollinger and many respected doctors and experts ⬇️ I will leave it here for now, keep your mom's spirits high and half your battle has been won. Wishing you and your mom all the best. Turn on some comedy to help boosts spirits. For sure the video below will give you confidence to fight your battle for the who has protected you for so many years. Good luck, dear!🙏🏼