Advantages and Disadvantages of living with In-Laws

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Couples married each other and dreamt to have their own house , figuring how and why things are happening by just consulting or having the help of each other. I haven't experienced living with my in-laws , i have just only heard stories about it from my friends and relatives. Living with your in-laws could bring both positive and negative effect on your own family relationship. Well, this is just on my own point of view , but i am not saying that all in-laws can be hard to live with. So let's try to take a look on some of my own possible cons and pros of living with them.

Disadvantages

No privacy

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I can see this as one of the disadvantages because obviously , you and your in laws are living under one roof , so more likely , lots of information are shared , and you have nothing to call a solid family time of your own ,since everything that will happen inside the house , they will witness . You cannot even dress up the way you want to , like me , usual get up when inside the house just sleeveless, paured with cotton shorts , and i prefer to not always wear bra. You cannot even fight or argue for simple matters aloud, you might need to whisper inside your bedroom so in laws would not hear the discussion.

Decision making

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This one's another hard part , i think ,because probably , specially your parents inlaw would suggest or shall we say instruct something to your partner , and it's like you have no choice but to agree with that certain decision . It's like you will hear those advices or shall i say unwanted advices from your in laws that moat of the time all you can do is say yes or follow it because you know the word respect.

Spouse Priority

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Husband/wife , you got married and decided to live with each other to create your own family . to make sure that every sungle thing you do is for the welfare of your own family. But what if you gotta live with your in laws? Of course , they are old already , you know it's innate in all of us to always consider the parents , for them not to feel left alone specially. But would you think it would be healthy for couple to be next priority only? some might be okay to this ,but i believe most are not. If you'll haveyour ownfamily ,you should alwaysput them in consideration, actually your priorityin every decision you make.

Financial /budgeting

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This is another aspect that i can see , can be affected by living with the in-laws. But of course it would depend , i see this as a negative one if.. in laws got lower income than your partner's . This could be applicable on situations like , you have to provide for them , say like your brothers or sisters would ask you for money beacuae they wanted to buy something , or that, their budget is not enough for their own family . This part could be irritating to your spouse, if moat especially your imcome is obviously just enough to support your own family needs. And with budgeting , living with in laws , you would have to consider to have something eapecially for the parents-in-law. Those that your partner are giving to your in laws could probably something that you save for your own family.

Food

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This shoudn't be a very disadvantage , but i just thought that not everyone has the same taste for foods, with parents in law , they might want a food that you don't or vice versa , so ending , you would have to spend money to buy a different food just to satisfy cravings of in- laws. Another scenario could be , you would like to cook something for your spouse but to your surprise, the in-laws got it all ready.

Advantages

You got a helping hand

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oh yes! this one's for sure having your in-laws around will give you an extra hand. Surely they would inititate a task themselves everyday. If you got kids, parents in law will definitely love to take care of them . And with chores of course , as per my observation, there are elderly who can't help but make them self active with anything everyday , so for sure you'll get help in cooking , cleaning and lookng after your kiddos.

You'll get to know them better

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To live in one roof means you got to be with them everyday, and with that you are able to discover new things about them , vice versa. You will understand more of them ,
why they are like this, why they want this, and why they got this attitude. Even their likes and dislkes. Your relationship to your in -laws could get tighter and tighter.

You have someone to talk to

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If you are a full time mom or a husband who's livng away from original fam, having in laws with you would give you an instant adviser or a chat buddy. If all chores are all done , there's always time for a wife and a mom-in-law to talk about anything under the sun. When it comes to the husband , if working , during no work days , bonding , beer time and lots of stories with father-in-law. You may also confess some of the traits you don't like much about your partner , you might be able to know from in laws that there's a reason why your spouse got that specific trait.

Financial/budgeting

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This can be applicable i think if in laws are way more richer than you and your partner, LOL. No, i mean , this is good because in times you would need financial assistance if you got budget shortage . When your in laws are so giving , for sure they'll definitely share their blessings , shop for the kiddos and even groceries for the house. Even bills , they will always be willing to let you borrow money , that in time will tell you ,that it's okay for you not to pay.

You are not alone , and will feel secured

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I myself had never experienced living with in laws , so when my husband's at work , it's just me and my kiddos left in the house. Sometimes you'll feel scared , but you haveto be brave enough. So i think by having in laws living with you , you would feel somehow secured because you are not physically alone.

There, you had my own list , but it would always depend on couples weather it would be good for them to live with inlaws or not. As for me , i think it would be best if your own family would haveyourvery own space where you can work things out on your own. It's okay to be with them like maybe once a week , let's say a weekend bonding time with them ,can do and talk anything under the sun. Your perspective on this topic depends on what situation you are in now,and that's okay because we are all different. But wegot things in common, we can always talk about anything in a peaceful manner ,and that we are able to loveand be love.

Thanks for dropping by!