Yikes! Welcome to the Uber Platform. I'm a rider and have been using both services (Lyft and Uber) for the last 2.5 years. I would never ask to plug in my own phone to listen to music or Bluetooth. I think some people are really bold with their request. Normal request are usually cable for charging if you have a port in the back or a cable long enough with an adapter. Be careful when you reject rides, that does count against you.