Your lack of self-confidence comes from your psychological inertia
Are you this kind of person?
When people disagree with you, you are easy to compromise; not dare to express your opinion, like to echo with others’ opinion; not dare to refuse others; when people took advantage of you, you also allow them to do that.
In a strange environment, shackled, always worry about your performance is not good enough, afraid to make your own decisions, even push the decision making to others. To avoid being your shortcomings being found out, you simply avoid socializing; when others praise you, you will feel uncomfortable, or even refute them. When things go wrong, you will think that it is your fault;
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All of these manifestations, in essence, deep in your heart of "your quality and value" contains a negative core belief that you are not good enough, not worthy of good people and good things, that is often to be said, "low self-esteem."
Low self-esteem is keeping you away from all the good stuff.
In this era, the outside world of public noises, you will see every day such as "Your peers are better you," "Someone already become a millionaire at 30 years old" ...
By its influence, most of us are dissatisfied with ourselves, the evaluation of our own relatively low, unconscious and passively become a low self-esteem.
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I can't, I'm going to screw things up.
Whether it is the task given by the leader or colleagues, or explain things to family and friends, you always feel that you can’t, don’t have the ability, not good enough, trembling, irritable anxiety.
He/She is so good, he/she sure won’t like me.
All the lovers were judged by their friends as not worthy of their own, outsiders said with their conditions, they can find a better relationship.
But in your heart, you feel that with your conditions, you are not worthy of those excellent people, even if worthy, but will soon be abandoned.
Please others, hate yourself
Hate yourself, afraid to show your true self, when others told you what to do, even if you hated it, you would still yield, because of you afraid if you reject, others will hate you.
These negative evaluations allow us to make a negative expectation at the beginning of the process, with additional anxiety, and easier and more difficult things to do.
Then the realization of negative expectations will make us more skeptical of denying ourselves.
This vicious circle of "Denying yourself--negative expectations--things are going wrong--negative expectations are being realized--denying yourself" is a recurring cycle.
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Low self-esteem unconsciously, has become our life biggest limit, limit us with inexplicable fear, living in a self-constructed prison, can never move freely, even make us afraid of good opportunity and happiness.
At the same time, studies have shown that people with low self-esteem are less likely to experience happiness in life, and low self-esteem is intimately associated with many negative possibilities, such as depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, dysfunction, and problem behavior, with dire consequences that cannot be expected.
Walk out of low self-esteem, you deserve a better life.
In fact, many people with low self-esteem are not bad, but they do not recognize their own excellence.
Therefore, to get out of the shadow of low self-esteem, the key is to overcome the "I do not", "I do not deserve", "I am a loser" such negative core beliefs that have been converted into thinking habits.
Start from the root, reconstruct a positive thinking mode, believe that you deserve a better life!
But if fall in a vicious circle of low self-esteem, when we want to break free, we often get deeper.
To truly break the negative core beliefs of ourselves, and to get out of low self-esteem, we need to uproot our negative beliefs from the depths of our thinking, and at the same time strengthen them through our actions and establish the right level of self-esteem.
Great post. I like your idea of uprooting our negative beliefs.
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