The harder you work, the more confident you are
Instead of “the harder you work, the more confident you are”, it is better to say the more you gain from your hard work, the more confident you are. Self-confidence is a kind of psychological expression, but also a kind of behavior performance.
This so-called confident psychological activity is capable of producing brain secretions such as dopamine, which makes people feel more relaxed, happy, hopeful and optimistic. A confident person can see the future and see a higher achievement, while a pessimist can only see the past and see failure, helplessness and even despair. These two completely different mindsets will affect all aspects of a person, including behavior, the way of thinking, ability, learning, and so on.
Confidence, on the other hand, makes the whole person behave more spiritually and actively, not afraid of difficulties, not afraid of setbacks, dare to do things that were previously feared.
Self-confidence can also affect the people around them, although they can't express it with words, but they just feel that you are different from the whole person.
Self-confident is like the state of mind after being drunk, feeling capable of conquering the world and having the ability to defeat Jobs and Gates.
And this state of mind is the basis for the success of many people. Whether it is a big success or small success, they are full of confidence, feel that there is no problem that can’t be solved.
In the long run, long-term self-confidence can affect the whole person's life height. A person's self-confidence will affect the choice of life and work, and different choices will get different results, life will also be changed by choice.
But where does confidence come from? This is a very important question. Ordinary people are unable to come from the rich social resources of identity, wealth, status and possession because none of these ordinary people have them.
Although many people say that these are materialistic, but I think for a person to have the right view of wealth, and these things can really bring people unlimited confidence.
Imagine yourself with 1 million dollars in your bank cards that allow you to spend casually; When you visit the city's most upscale shopping malls, will you not feel particularly different, feel that the whole city at your feet. And in reality, after the late night overtime, sitting on the clatter of the bus, looking at the real estate at the roadside, will you not feel particularly meaningless, and the mind will also follow to sink?
This is the psychological role that material wealth brings to people. Self-confidence and without self-confidence sometimes is very simple. Self-confidence for ordinary people mostly comes from the effort. Doing a good job through effort, study hard, and strive to live a good life, and strive to improve themselves so that they get change, get promoted. Having little results every day can motivate us to work harder, and the self-confidence is based on the daily effort and the results.
Why is confidence built on effort and gain, not just effort? Because the unproductive effort will only bring frustration, will only strike our own self-confidence, and it is worse than not working hard. If you don't work hard, you can at least tell yourself that you just don't want to work hard, it’s not that you can't do it, and your basic confidence still can be maintained. But if the effort has no gain, then the normal explanation can only be our ability is not good enough. If no matter how hard you tried, there is still no gain, then you will slowly lose your confidence.
A gambler, can become a gambler, why he has the confidence that he will win, even if lose more but still addicted to gambling? Because he built extraordinary self-confidence in his heart, this confidence was built up from the experience he had won. If a person loses everytime he bet, and never experienced the taste of winning, then the possibility of becoming a gambler is almost zero.
Only after a lot of winning experience, a person will become a gambler. So if you talk to every gambler, he will basically tell you about his brilliant experience of winning before. And that experience will translate into superb self-confidence, including confidence in his skills, confidence in luck. Losing is just a bad luck, not a matter of technical unbelief or probability.
Another common super-confident person is the stock market speculator. Whether it is senior intellectuals, young people, ordinary housewives or successful people.
When they make money in the market and buy a few rising stocks, everyone becomes confident because of this kind of lucky gain. Everyone will become a stock expert, become a master of stocks, they will tell you how simple the stock speculation is, they become a master, become a winner.
Then whatever they do, they will do it with confidence and perseverance. As if to make money in a market is entirely on their own ability, their own talent, their own shrewdness.
The power of self-confidence is extraordinary. And in the table of life and career, what is needed to most is the confidence that dares to put all the bets into one table. This is the basic posture of hard life and hard work.
How to gain results from hard work? Hard work, need to have the right cognitive ability and perseverance, not all efforts can be successful and obtain benefits. Therefore, we have to work hard and have the correct cognitive ability, understand the correct way and direction of efforts. Ideal and reality must be on the same line. The formation of the ideal is plump but the reality is embarrassed will be doomed to failure of the frustration. In fact, these are caused by cognitive ability deviation and lack of cognitive ability.
The first problem: Not fully aware of their position, height, and resources, but challenge goals that are too high. The most serious issue is that some people know that the goal is not feasible, and unable to achieve, but still don’t want to give up. For example, a man comes from an ordinary family and set his first small goals to earn 1 million. Or after graduation, go to the field they have no experience in and dabbled in the business. Or because their work is not successful, career is not developed, and choose to start a business. These are practices that are not fully aware of their position and resources, and failure is mainly inevitable.
Those who dropped out of school halfway to start a business, whether it is Bill Gates or Zuckerberg, they were already had some small achievements in school, and could even be said to have succeeded in starting a business before dropping out. Those who leave to start a business are already starting their own business after they have made enough resources in their careers. If your career has been a failure, how can you cope with a more complex entrepreneurial environment?
The second problem: To have the right direction, you need cognitive ability to judge and confirm. It is very important for the direction of life, the direction of career and so on. If the direction is wrong, you will move away from your target. The more you work hard, the more you feel the pressure, the more difficult and helpless, even the despair. In such a situation, you will only fall into a vicious circle, the constant increase in failure, increase losses, the harder for you to climb out of this quagmire, cannot move toward the right direction.
When you are in the right direction, constantly working hard, constantly reaping, and constantly achieving achievements, you will find it easy to determine the direction of life. Once you step into the right direction and rhythm, you can avoid the journeys and times that stand in your way and avoid the wrong direction and save time.
You will feel that everything is working out fine for you, you even have the confidence to fight with reality, and even change your own destiny. Because in the right rhythm and direction, you can do anything, you can feel the smooth process and good results. You will produce some kind of feeling, feel that you can achieve anything, this is the feeling of self-confidence.
Only with confidence, you will work harder, invest more resources, take risks, and challenge things and areas that were previously or felt impossible by others. This constant innovation and challenge, because you are in a correct rhythm and direction, but also a relatively large probability of success. Even if it failed, and because failure is a small probability or less happens in you, so, you don’t feel frustration, disappointment, despair, and other negative emotions.
You will stand back up and start over again, and that comes from your confidence. Without self-confidence, it is easy to be dominated by negative emotions in the event of failure, unable to escape and start over, unable to see hope, unable to see the beauty of the future.
When you can't see it, there's no impulse, there's no desire. Self-confidence, is also a kind of monster, need you to constantly, continue to feed it with success and achievement, only such non-stop feeding, it will grow, will positively affect your behavior and ideas, affect your worldview, values, thus helping you to go further on the road of life.
If you stop feeding before the confidence grows, it will be devoured by despair without the ability to resist.
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://walkinharmony.vornix.blog/2018/12/20/the-harder-you-work-the-more-confident-you-are/