There is no happiness only to give and receive is also a right

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Happiness is not only in the act of unselfish giving everything in exchange for nothing.Receiving is also a right, and even more, is also a need to give courage to the heart and building the fundamental pillars of reciprocity ..

Mahatma Gandhi once said that "the best way to find yourself is to lose the service of others." It is a noble and humanistic approach, no doubt, but we should not confuse these with the current level of personal or emotional relationships, there where "giving and receiving" are inscribed in the same circle.

Give much and receive too little tired, and even the gift of knowing how to give for nothing is beautiful, it is also necessary to receive without having to ask.

We all at some point this line that goes from one who is accustomed to give up what only expects to receive. The harmony would be in the center, from which provide a happiness capable of giving and receiving. It is one thing which unfortunately is not always the case, especially with regard to loving relationships.

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The heart also yearns to receive recognition

We do not want gifts, preferred details. We do not want our favors are reciprocated or to devote in a poster for every effort made by each dedicated time or for every dream presented in order to meet and make happy those we love.

What our hearts want to get is respect, recognition and reciprocity. None of this is touched with the hands. However, it has the subtle virtue of caress our souls to make us feel loved. That's why many times when you have nothing of this, we empty and almost helpless.

The problem in most romantic relationships is exactly this dissonance: give all in exchange for very little. Henry Miller, known for its vital and works full of sensuality, commented in one of his books to these relations "asymmetric" were successful were needed two patients: one addict receiving and another whose addiction was giving. Only then there would be harmony. The rest of the relationships would be condemned inevitably to an agonizing suffering.

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The dynamics of our relationships

Our relationships, be loving, family or friends, often have a kind of dynamic where each of us stands somewhere between those who give and those who usually receive. Ideally, all we assume the role of "balancers", there where trying to build a respectful harmony between what we contribute and what we get, being always mindful of the interaction itself.

Let us now see in detail what kind of dynamics we usually build, according to the theories of psychologist and author of "Give and Take" (Give and Take).

Donors. Here comes the profile that popular psychology usually define as "Wendy syndrome", people who understand happiness by giving themselves to others, giving everything for nothing.

Receivers. In this dimension are those used almost exclusively to receive.

Balancers. As mentioned earlier, they seek harmony, benefit in common.

False donors. Surely at some point you have encountered this kind of behavior: are people with masks. They seem very generous, but their strategy is sharper and selfish: do yourself a favor and, in turn, require a currency of our hearts.

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We need to know what we deserve

It is clear that the world is sometimes a complex scenario and to heterogeneous, full of love and truth. However, there is nothing you can do to change that partner or family member who thinks that life is like this: expecting more than they are willing to offer.

To have relationships more healthy, we need to be aware of what to look for culprits for this malaise will only bring more suffering. There are times when even with the love the relationship becomes unbearable, and this is because one of the two doesn't love as much as you want, expect or need from another person. You should not look guilty.

Just remember that each of us deserves, just know that it is vital to establish a fair relationship with yourself taking care of your own self-esteem and remembering, above all, that love is not a game where only one wins.

Love is authentic, love is soul, is an act where two wise people spontaneously offer to each other to build, to invest also. You want the happiness of being loved, without requiring in exchange for our own happiness.