Dr. TLK _ How to attract the best relationship...Part: 1
Hello dear steemians,
Let's explore few steps that would help us attract the best relationships to our lives
1- Put your Checklist aside
As we grow up, bombarded with images of prince or princess charming created by Disney and Hollywood movies, we tend to create an image and a checklist (mainly made of physical/financial attributes) of the perfect person that we would like to meet.
However, struck by reality, we become to understand that no one fits completely in our checklist. Which lead us to either
- Accepting the first person that fits in, or
- Forfeiting it altogether and accepting just anyone that passes by in our lives.
Either way, we usually end up thinking "Why this is happening to me? Why can't I find a decent person? Why I am so unlucky?...etc"
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The solution: Forget all the check lists you have made. Put them aside or through the shredder even and be open to accepting people as they are. You may be amazed how much you will end up learning and enjoying yourself in the process.
And one day, Voila! Your dream relationship appears out of no where.
You may even be very surprised to know that, if you had that check list in hand, this person doesn't fit within the boundaries of your check list at all. Yet, they fit your heart perfectly
BOTTOM LINE: Be open and accepting
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2- Stop your Search and Start your Discoveries
Have you ever lost your keys or eyeglasses and kept searching for them high and low but, for the life of you, couldn't find them? You get tired and you stop searching, only to find that your keys were just on top of the kitchen counter where you passed like a hundred times, or your eye glasses were actually on top of your head!!!
Love is the same. Actually everything in life is the same. The more we focus on it the more we lose sight of it.
Why? Because focusing on a specific thing limits our vision inside a very narrow space. So even if what we are searching for is next to us, we will not be able to find it no matter how hard we look.
The Solution:Live and enjoy life with eyes wide open and happy. This way you will find the relationship that may be hidden in your blind spot or just at the corner of your next life adventure.
BOTTOM LINE: Enjoy your life's adventures
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3- Believe it or not! You are already complete
When I was growing up, I used to hear the cliché "I want to find that someone that completes me" all the time. So I grew up thinking that the best relationship I can have is with someone that completes me.
Have you heard or thought of this cheesy cliché before? If not, good for you. If you did and still think you need that, please reconsider
If we think about it logically, finding someone that completes us means we are at least 50% flawed. We are less than everyone else and the same goes for the other person. In this case, no matter where you search or whom you find, you will never feel complete and vice versa.
The solution: You are already complete. But if you don't feel that way, work on accepting and loving yourself first. Your soulmate will appear when you feel complete by yourself, because they are complete by themselves as well.
BOTTOM LINE: Love and cherish yourself
.... Till next episode
Dr. The Leaping Koala :D
I think attracting the best relationship starts with the individual first attracting themselves. You can be any better to someone than you are to yourself. Nice and handy tips.
Hello my dear @ejemai
Thank you for the visit, comments and upvotes. They are deeply appreciated :D
I very much agree with what you say. We should start with ourselves first, before involving someone else.
Many thanks for the wise words from a wise loving man ;D
I struggled for years with learning to love myself. Even understanding what that meant was a challenge. We are free intellegent beautiful human beings. Have a good day
I totally understand what you mean. I only lately started to understand what loving myself entails and still struggle to do it a lot of times. But I keep reminding myself.
Your words are beautiful as I am sure your soul is.
Have a great day :D
In my opinion the check list will be in our minds whether we want it or not, because we always check and compare inevitably the other person. But, at the end of the day we have to ask ourselves what really matters. The prince/princess charming does not exist in real life. We don't need a partner to complete us. (Gosh, that cliche I have heard zillion times 😀...). What we need is somebody who accepts us for what we are and vice versa. After the first attraction when everything is just perfect, comes the disappointment because this is not Mr. / Miss Right, then what? We change the boxes to tick in our check list or keep searching the right one.
The point I am trying to make is that we will look for someone that fits in certain criteria, but they must be realistic and to know what is the most important for us.
Another interesting point is the example we see in our parents. Don't you think that many people search for similar person like their father/mother?
Hi dear @nelinoeva,
Thank you for your engaged comment.
I agree with you indeed. We have the checklist in our minds, but at the end we should only focus on important criteria from the list (I personally think these should be more personality or moral related)
As for your question, it is very interesting. I personally hope and pray I am not looking for someone like my father (but who knows what my subconscious mind is thinking).
Its very interesting topic that deserves to be discussed in a pot of its own.
Many thanks again
Hugs :D
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