Englishtchrivy! I've not gone anywhere (and not going to!), just a short break to sort some stuff out in real life. Indeed, I would say that Chinese weddings cost an order of magnitude more than Western ones.. it's really quite a waste sometimes.. the excessive numbers of guests that likely the couple doesn't even know.. the lavish setups and big halls. It's really quite something else. But at the end of the day you are right, to be together forever and grow old together is most important!