I'm losing patience, why? Who is to blame?)
Hi, everybody. Do you sometimes feel like you're about to explode? Like the level of your patience is about to be close to the red mark and there will be a disaster. I think, this has happened at least once to each of you. I am no exception. Very often my husband and child are the cause of my explosions. My husband loves to thicken the paint and throw me questions like a machine gun, without respite and sometimes the opportunity to answer. This usually happens on the weekend, because on other days he works and he's probably not up to it))) My daughter and I have a pretty clear schedule, we get up, have breakfast and walk at the same time. But when my husband is off - mode of the day flies to hell. In the morning I feed the daughter and hear dozens of questions in my address: where's the frying pan? We forgot to put the broth in the fridge. And milk?????? only on scrambled eggs, with than same we will to drink coffee. And if we add milk to coffee, then how are we going to make an omelet. These bananas need to be thrown away. Kitchen towels an urgent need to change... And so on. About the twelfth question I really want to ask him to shut up and give me a break, because my brain is ready to explode!!! As a result, by the end of breakfast I feel furious, ready to tear to pieces. Thank God the weekend's only a day a week))) And much less often I lose patience with my daughter. Indeed do even so. I lose patience, but I don't take it out on her. I internally calm myself, try to speak softly, tenderly, and the anger passes. Of course there are times, when even this technique does not save. Interestingly, it depends on the stress resistance, that is, the internal characteristics of the person, or circumstances? Or it is a difficult process, which is influenced by many factors. You know, there are super-quiet people, they're often called Boas. It is difficult to bring such people out of patience. Maybe they hit a punching bag for hours on end until no one sees? Or they just do have nerves of steel...
Thanks for reading!
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Try a nice bubble bath...
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Nice post
Most of the triggers i see are stress related. Understanding yourself is the first step to handling your emotions. I love the fact that you try not to lash out at them, but maybe you should lash out every once in a while; it'll help you calm down. Alternatively, try taking Yoga or increasing your exercise routine
Thanks for the advice!
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Silence is what's keeping you ready to blow. The cycle will repeat endlessly (and in crescendo) should you not speak up and make things clear. You're not the only one that needs to do things, you're not a machine but a human, and as a human you need time to relax or the sheer amount of things will build a stress so big you'll blow yourself and those next to you.
These are the right thoughts, thanks for the response!
Thanks for sharing! Sometimes, when we get to that point that we feel we're about to explode, it is better to just take a walk or listen to some inspirational songs to help calm the nerves.
You are right!
It's internal characteristics of the person and circumstances both.
You just have a temperament like me not to confuse with temper that is something different. There is nothing wrong with temperament usually these people are free spirits and very independent.
I agree with you! Thanks for comment!