Alot of this is local to an individual I feel. Pressure is just one tool in a parents toolbox, building on guilt and shame among others. But most children brought up in this situation not knowing anything otherwise, see the pressure shame and guilt as a hallow structure, because overtime that threat of immediate danger has worn off, as with the boy crying wolf. Now once external influence gets involved, in the form of classmates or street friends, etc... If attention is brought to that specific nervous tick a individual may feel, for whatever reason, it's also on the person bringing that attention to with a good kind loving mind to help provide tools to manage those expectations. Even saying something as simple as "it won't always be like this, one day it will be better. Not all parents are like yours" gives them hope if they suddenly get overwhelmed with the injustice someone else noticed in their life. It's like Plator wrote about in 'allegory of the cave',.. the ones staring at the walls and seeing shadows know nothing else....