It's just one of many things I had to endure growing up under her. I don't have many memories of my grandfather as he died when I was young and like many they believed it was disrespectful to speak ill of the dead but my grandmother is still alive and as an adult I see much of my mother's behaviors in her. I mean at least she has the grace to disguise it as 'pushing to be better' rather than just outright and raw without any attempts to justify it, which is how my mother always was, but still.

(A really good example of this would be my grandmother saying "I just wanted you to get that A because it's better for your grades, you and your future!" versus my mother going "It should have been an A.")

The internet is indeed wonderful. A big part of internet use for me is tracking my own behaviors so when I fall into the same patterns and pitfalls I so harshly criticize I can recognize it, apologize when/where necessary, and become more aware for the future so it happens less and less. I know that a lot of how I was raised has seeped into my own behavior and it's going to take me time and effort to change into someone better but at least I'm actively trying.