Good thoughts there @papa-pepper. By not transferring the blame on others, we tends not to see our faults. This is what achievers don't do, no one is culpable for your actions it's YOU. In this I have found unequal strength, I can now control my emotions. I chose things I react too and ignore several others. And ultimately, I am free. No one can make me do what I don't wanna do and anything I do, I'm responsible for it.