Three cheers for the Lesson of the Spinach! I, too, spent many years letting people walk all over me because I didn't want to upset them. It took counseling for me to understand it was ok for somebody else to be the one who got upset. I still drift back into the old habits from time to time, but am consciously making an effort to stand up for myself and for others. I just recently told someone off who had been asking for it for many years. It really felt good, and gave that person some food for thought.