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RE: Playing catchup after night nursing
I am curious though, do women enjoy the snuggles + chores of keeping babies dry and healthy. I asked that because the wife of a brother always complains of fatigue with her new born Adam.
Is it as much enjoyable as it is stressful?
The answer to your question is yes ☺️. There is nothing more delightful thank caring for your baby, but it is also the most exhausting time of your life. Having helpers like Shawna, whose bodies have not been ravaged by the labor process and are working through new (and more) hormones is so important.
*Edit: I will add, your sister-in-law would likely be grateful if you and your brother would open your eyes and do things around the house that need doing. Don't ask what you can do to help. Just help.
Thanks for taking your time to answer. I agree having someone to help out with some chores around the house helps. And for the record, I don't live with them only visit occasionally. My brother though (her husband) I noticed doesn't like taking the child when home mostly due to the child crying and sometimes unexpected urination.
Do I blame him for that, I am sorry to say No. Our orientation here is the male is the breadwinner while the female stays home to cater for the babies and anything in the house.
So here you have the husband providing anything and everything needed, all the house financials, from feeding, health, schooling to clothing, shelter. The woman on the other hand is mostly a stay at home mother taking care of everything in the house.
Mind you, even in cases where the woman works (have a job or business), the husband is expected and should be responsible for everything in the house.
So in most cases, males shy away from these little things in the house, which at times I believe help in creating stronger bonds. Like cooking for your lady breakfast before she even wakes up. Here people would say the man is weak.
Sorry to bore you with how my culture here is. @rachelhanson. And like I said I appreciated your response.
Cheers.
I fully agree with @rachelhanson10!
You didn't bore me with your culture at all! I appreciate the explanation.
But imagine, if you will, that while it may be a cultural norm for women to take care of everything domestic they don't like it any more than the men do. And the men get a break from their jobs, the women never do.
Well, I am with you on that one.
I'm glad we could fine common ground :).
I just know I'm not exactly jumping for joy when my kids vomit or urinate on me. But it's part of being a parent. And thankfully, it doesn't happen often.
You are welcome.