Is jealousy a part of love?
So I asked this question on other social media platforms;
Should a lover guard his love jealously?
Do you really think one can truly love without being jealous? Your opinion is needed.
Here are some of the responses I got.
It is ok to be jealous..but not to be over protective...cos if u don't give your spouse some space...they are not free with you.
No.... If you truly love someone some things would make you jealous but then we are only human...... What makes it okay is how we act on that jealousy.
That's why communication is key... Express every feeling to your partner and be open enough to let your partner do the same...
Don't judge, don't jump to conclusions, don't be a bitch... Just listen, understand and see things from their perspective.
Jealousy is one attribute of love.
Needed... If I see no jealousy thus I see no love.
The issue is the wielder, like one given power but how he or she wields d said power.
I won't want you to be hugging and cuddling up with others when I'm with you, or calling others sweet names and the rest. I'm jealous, even our God is a jealous God.
Jealousy and love are mutually exclusive. We can love without being jealous. We should keep in mind that jealousy is a temporary, immature feeling that should go a way.
Jealousy Is not something to harbor as normal human feelings. Is something we should daily seek to evolve from. Jealousy is a low level vibration, we should do a way with such fickle emotions.
Love is to give. Where is the place of jealousy in something that seek to give?
For the fact that we experience so much jealousy with love does not make it right. We should overcome pangs of jealousy.
Jealousy is a symptom of insecurity and inability of a human to come face to face with reality and it's heart.
If you see your self being jealous, don't accept it as a normal feeling. Don't attack your self, or feel bad. See it for what it is.
That is your mind telling you that you need some growing up in that area.
To be jealous is a sign of selfishness. We should work to be free and let others be free.
From the feedback I got, 80% believe it is Ok to be jealous, while 20% think it is wrong.
Over to you. What is your opinion on this topic? Do you think it is OK to be jealous over your lover? I await your responses in comments below.
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Excellent review @ogoowinner and I think that jealousy interferes with love, because if you truly love, you should trust the second half!
Trust is very important in every relationship. Thank you for your feedback here.
It all depends on what form the jealousy is being displayed.
On one hand it's a sure sign that the other party cares so much about you, and yes somehow that drives them to want to be the best they possibly can so as to keep your interest focused on them.
While on the other hand, it needs to be carefully watched. Because some toxic people use it as a way to be domineering in relationships. They use it as a tool to monitor your every move and lifestyle, and that's really creepy. Trust me I speak from experience,..
In relationships the margin between jealousy and trust is very slim, and needs to be watched closely.
You're right. I appreciate your comment here. Thank you.
I believe jealousy is a part of love, sign of true love and pretty good for relationship to show there is still value in the relationship. But when the jealosuy is at the extreme, then it is no longer good for relationship.
BUt i really believe jealosuy is needed in relationship but not too much jealousy that will destroyed the relationship
Thank you.
Maturity is not about how old you are but how you react to situations.
Jealousy to me always come naturally with love if you are truly in love but the way you react to it will show how mature you.
One of my friend use to say that relationship is a risk so be prepared to take the risk.
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Awesome! Thank you.
I think 🤔 so, just as light may not be fully appreciated without darkness in place, jealousy could be said to be one of the components of love, jealousy is a two edged sword 🗡
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When you're truly in love with someone; there is the tendency to allow the person to be free and do what makes him/her happy. When you decide what they should/shouldn't do, it becomes selfish and controlling (which is infatuation).
What a lot of people fail to realize is that true love comes to us all; if the person you're in love with is really reciprocating your love, you will never have to worry about their actions because they know what you don't like and won't imagine doing anything to hurt you. When you have to continually bicker about their actions bothering you, then it's either they're still learning to love you or they can't be bothered.
Most people are in relationships that they claim to be loving because they are usually not able to stay alone or patiently search for the one either out of peer pressure or inability to control their urges.
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