Forgiving the right way

in life •  8 months ago

 


Forgiveness sounds simple and easy, but it isn't the way it sounds. Forgiveness is much more than just saying "I forgive you". To forgive means to clear the slate. It means you have to assume the person did not commit that crime against you anymore. Forgiveness is not as easy as we think. It requires a lot of strength and willpower.

Sometimes, we truly want to forgive, but our hearts keep holding on to the past and will always remind us of the wrong that was done. But I want to tell you this, you have not forgiven if you are still looking for a way to prove a point. It is true that everything that happens to us in life is recorded in our subconscious mind and most times, we unconsciously react based on that. This is where the practice of auto-suggestion is highly recommended. You have to consciously reprogram your mind through auto-suggestions if you truly want to totally forgive. The old image in your subconscious mind has to be replaced by a new one through what you consciously suggest to it. 

However, forgiveness is not foolishness. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, or you come in contact with toxic people, do not hold grudges against them, but you must protect yourself by creating a distance. 

Forgiveness is not a favour you do only to those who wrong you, you also benefit from it. When you forgive, you experience inner peace. And as someone who wants to use his/her mind as a powerful tool for creativity and innovations, grudges should have no space in that mind. The world does not need more people moving around with grudges in their hearts. Imagine if everyone holds to heart the wrong that was done to them, then this earth will be the most dangerous place for human existence.

Forgive to free the one who did you wrong.

Forgive to free your mind from harmful toxins.

Forgive to heal the world.

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Never give up sista! I pity those who hold grudges. It's wasteful energy. Nice to see some positivity on Steem fam!

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Holding grudge is a disaster to those who practice it. Thank you for your comment here @kevbot.

The Prophet of Islam says," the best amongst you is the one who forgives people". Thank you so much for posting on this very important topic.

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the best amongst you is the one who forgives people"

That is very correct. Thank you for reading.

I chose the three ways of forgiveness.

greeting from Venezuela!

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Oh! Thank you for reading.

You have said it all, forgiveness actually helps the person forgiving someone than the person asking for the forgiveness. You actually free your self of all the burden. Thanks for this post

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Thank you for reading @adeuyi

It takes a lot to forgive when someone hurts you greatly, but I believe with time, when the pain has reduced a little, you can look at the event without that much anger and bitterness. Only then can you really forgive.

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Thank you for your comment here.

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You are welcome.

You're an inspiration. Loving your post.

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Thank you.

I use to Hold a lot of grudges sometimes people we call family members are just wolves who are related for you.

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LOL! Let go! Thanks for reading.

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Well what can I say, I will try, thank you @ogoowinner

True words thanks! @journeyfreedom

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You are welcome

@ogoowinner,yes it's easy to say I FORGIVE YOU THAN DOING IT, but forgiving for a learned person is not a choice but an option because you do yourself more favour than the opposite victim his self.

truely it's easy to forgive but never so easy to forget but for the learned, anything is easy to he that wants it to be easy.

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Thank you for reading this.

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@ogowinner Thanks. I think sometimes where we learn about forgiveness matters. In the bible Jesus tells his disciples that we must forgive 77 times 7 times which is actually a way to show them the attitude of forgiveness not just the numbers.

Some pick from Hollywood, and you hear stuffs like "Forgive people but don't forget there names."

And so on!

Where we pick our philosophy and mantra from, to a great extent, shapes the quality of our forgiveness capacity.

This was wonderful and touched my ❤

Preach it sis
Pretty you

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Hehehehe! I sight you.

Wow...Great girl and also beautiful ... Your article is very great, iam so be support you @ogoowinner, never mind, everything is going to be fine... Best women.
Iam @rahmoe

Stupidity is a sin, we can forgive but also distance ourselves from those abusing nomenclatures, otherwise they’ll push us to emotional injuries and corrupt our sincere hearts into in forgiveness.

@ogoowinner this your post is really deep!

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Thanks for your comment here bro.

It's easy to forgive but the problem that makes forgiveness difficult is the ability to forget. It takes divine grace to combine the two.

The mind of the one that refuse to forgive remain unsettled until he/she does the needful.

We are all human and we are bound to step on toes but we need to always have the constant forgiving spirit in other to have peace of mind ourselves.

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Thank you for reading.

Beatiful. Good job awesomo upvote

yes forgiveness is not foolishness. To forgive is still easy but to forget is hard

Surely saying "i forgive you" is pretty hard to say depending on what the person did,forgiving is pretty hard.But Its good to forgive and forget.Nice post madam,your really getting prettier by the day.would love to take a selfie with you someday.

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Lol! Thanks for your comment here.

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Will be waiting for that day.

Hello @ogoowinner

This is certainly a good advise to those who would rather hurt than to forgive.

However, forgiveness is not foolishness. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, or you come in contact with toxic people, do not hold grudges against them, but you must protect yourself by creating a distance.

This paragraph is most important to me. Sometimes some persons subjects themselves to all manners of abuse in the name of forgiveness. I think this is the most stupid thing to do. Best advice: while you forgive, protect yourself against being taking for a ride.

@eurogee

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Thanks for reading bro.

Thought to me, before i forgive i always make sure the person am about to forgive will not repeat the same thing again. That is why i will always tell the person what he/she does before letting it go.

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You can't be so certain they won't repeat it. Only open your heart to forgiveness.

Forgiving doesn’t mean you let that other person off the hook. It means you’re letting yourself off the hook..

Thanks for this motivation today @ogoowinner
Im a big fan of forgiveness, but Is it really for everyone??

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Thank you.

Unforgiveness hurts you more than it does your offender. Unforgiveness is giving that person power overyou... So do YOURSELF a favor and forgive.... Forgo a the hate and have peace of mind.

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True. Thanks for your comment here.

nice post sister.please upvote me

Forgiveness is not a favour you do only to those who wrong you, you also benefit from it.hmm great post thanks for @ogoowinner

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Thanks dear.

Sequel to the way the term 'forgiveness' has been misconstrued, your article is not just timely but also extremely didactic.

Permit me to summarize my opinion on this using the greatest book I've ever read; the Bible.

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Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

I rest my case. (drops mic 🎤 and walks out)

Meanwhile this post needs to reach a wider audience, so I'll gladly resteem it @ogoowinner

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You're most welcome Your Excellency.

I'm so grateful for your support the other day. My excitement knew no bounds that day. Thanks a lot @ogoowinner

Excellent post by you once again dear a great way for me to think again and start off the day nice message you have put up :)

Forgiveness is the key to your inner peace, amazing post @ogoowinner

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Girlfriend, thanks dear.

nice post men, dont forget follow me. good luck friend

I totally agree with you, forgiveness is not easy but it is neccessary. Thank you for this masterpiece.

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Thank you for reading.

The hardest part about forgiveness is that after forgiving if the person who is forgiven hurts again in a different way, somehow we tend to remember again what we had already promised to be forgiven and forgotten.

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That is why I recommended the use of auto suggestion. Thanks for your comment here.

Forgive to free the one who did you wrong.

Forgive to free your mind from harmful toxins.

Forgive to heal the world.

These are powerful dear and it is when we truly forgive that we can experience inner peace. We should also consider that we also hurt others and we would expect them to forgive us. Thank you dear for sharing

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Thanks ma'am. I really appreciate your comment here.

Forgiveness is very important. It restore trust and build a relationship stronger than it was.

So motivating..... Apart from being careful it's good to clear d mind of Ill thoughts

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Thank you.

I must confess with all sincerity of the mind. Forgiveness is not really an easy thing to do.
ironically, when you fail to forgive you end up hurting yourself rather than the person you are holding grudge against.

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True. Thanks for reading bro.

So far forgiveness has done me more good than harm. There is no reason why I should not stand by it. Thank you for this wonderful one.

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Lol! Thanks for your comment here sis.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.

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I like your post/message as well as your photo. 😊 I encourage you to continue to post positive message as such. Thank you for sharing.

But after forgiveness, things will never be the same as it use to be .

as simple as the word "I forgive you" seems... it does a whole lot... it not only frees the one holding the grudge, but also gives him a sense of rest...

A very insightful post that has a lot of truth in it. Forgiveness is a powerful and often a difficult thing to do, but it is worth it in trying to live more peacefully and lovingly.
Thanks for sharing! ❤

The issue of forgiveness is essential for life @ogoowinner , I have had to forgive several times, the most difficult thing is to forgive someone who has taken the life of a loved one. Feelings for your post.

unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. you will just be having headache for nothing. and the other person is living well and not sending you. Nice post @ogoowinner. My mentor

I've come to realize that each time I forgive others who offends me I also forgive myself because I don't get to put their matter in mind again..

i'm of the opinion that the best and right decisions in life are often difficult and painful but in the long run yield the best result. God knows how many times i have forgiven and how much hurt i had to let go to live free today. thanks to all our transgressors, the pain only made us stronger and the scars , adorned us 20140724_120919-001.jpg

Everyone must have forgiven spirit... We humans cannot be perfect like God and we should always forgive anyone who has done something wrong to us either intentionally or unintentionally..

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Thank you.