Imposter Syndrome - Self Sabotage and Feeling Unworthy
Are you waiting for people to realise you fooled them?
Do you worry you'll get found out?
Ever feel like you're just pretending to be an adult?
You've ended up with a job, feeling you tricked the hiring committee with how qualified you are. Sure you have a degree from college but you feel like you aren't qualified to be responsible for all these corporate systems.
Do you ever feel you've duped people when they praise you for doing great work? You feel like a fraud, worrying that people might "find out" who you really are? Do you think people believe you to be more capable than you know yourself to be?
Impostor Syndrome leads to self sabotage.
Many recent graduates experience Impostor Syndrome where they feel they've gotten lucky up until now that no one has noticed they aren't actually as smart as they appear. Many people with impostor syndrome sabotage themselves, by doubting their abilities they tend to:
- Only apply for jobs they're over qualified for
- Not submitting work until it's perfect
- Stressing and worrying about being "found out"
- Attributing success to luck and other factors.
I personally have experienced Impostor Syndrome throughout my life. Especially my first few full time jobs where I had the theoretical knowledge but doubted I could put it into practice. When I taught object oriented programming to first year computer science students I felt like an impostor. I felt I didn't know enough to teach others, I was constantly worried they'd ask a hard question catching me as a fraud. Over time I've gotten over this, I realised I constantly felt like an impostor yet everyone else continued to appreciate my good work. Eventually I began to accept that I am in fact capable, I stopped worrying and started living.
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Great post @moomoo, I felt like I had Impostor Sydrome back when I was coming to grips with being an "adult". I have learnt to accept praise and take everything as it comes. If someone tells me I have done good or they like what they see, I take it on board. This has been a pretty big wakeup for myself to know that yes I am worth and little by little, I can make a difference by adding value to peoples lives. Great article, followed for more of moomoo in the future!
Thanks fellow conscious being. I think everyone might experience it in different aspects.
Certainly being an "adult"is one of the greatest reasons for it. Growing up I always thought there was some point in life in which I'd become an adult. After moving out of home, going through uni and now working full time I still don't feel like an "adult".
Maybe that moment comes when you get a mortgage, get married or have kids. But I suspect that no body actually knows what they're doing in this life, some people are just better at pretending.
Feel free to visit my blogpost about self-sabotage! @miguelr