Don't try to be nice to people who view social interaction as an exchange of power

in #life7 years ago (edited)

https://steemit.com/steemit/@just2random/let-s-make-sure-steemit-never-becomes-like-this

I thought it might be interesting to have a little chat and maybe do a continuation of this post I saw by @just2random.

I always knew that social media and the west generally was pretty bad when it came to all these weird bubble communities where nobody talked to anyone on the outside and just constantly reinforced their viewpoints on each other but it took some incursions lately that I've been making into the 'mainstream' subs and so on to realise just how fucking bad things are.

It's not just the fact that you've got entire groups of people deliberately working together to keep anyone with differing view out. That they use voting blocs to establish power within politics and shut down individuals or minority opinions. That's all pretty fucked up, but I think one of the more unpleasant aspects of just interacting with these types of people is that they view even the most simple conversations or debates as an exchange of power.

I'll explain properly what I mean by that but it's something I've been noticing an awful lot recently. Have you ever tried to apologise to someone before who's normal? Even if you know it's not a big deal but you think you should set things straight so they know you didn't mean to do what you did etc. everyone fuck's up this way every now and then and it's normal, people apologise and then everything settles down.

This doesn't happen in social media, perhaps it's because of me being an Anarcho-Voluntaryist, but knowing about this sort of behaviour and knowing my own rights and so on as an individual is kind of my thing. When you see people get outraged over something now, it is absolutely neverending, it doesn't matter whether it's someone writing an 'offensive' tweet or whether it's somebody getting something wrong. It doesn't matter how much they apologise or how much they try to correct everything the mob will always go after them, this is because the people involved aren't looking for an apology or a correction, they want to control people through emotional blackmail and it's pretty vile.

I tweaked onto this with the whole social justice warrior ( SJW ) trend that's going on right now, the left wing SJWs are the absolute worst offenders of this kind of behaviour but you can see it very easily happening with others as well. If you have somebody apologising for getting something wrong. The attacking continues and they always try to emotionally beat you down rather than be a mature adult and go "Oh hey, we all make mistakes" and it's because they want to make you feel like shit and have control over you.

It seems so fucking obvious, but for fuck's sake, cut these people out of your lives wherever you see them. It doesn't matter whether it's left wing SJWs telling you you're a piece of shit white male or right wing SJWs saying you're a degenerate for not following Christianity. Or for that matter any other random person trying to make it out that you're a scumbag when you're trying to correct something you've said or apologised for before hand and just won't fucking let it go.

It's a really unhealthy trend that I think should be talked about a bit more and I know there are people who do not like Trump but I'm afraid this guy has the best handle on this sort of behaviour than anyone. Just don't apologise to these people, don't waste your time with them, look at how he handles the media and basically tells them to fuck off when they try to make him say shit and go on an apology tour constantly in order to capitulate to them. I think that's the attitude more need to take especially people who want to express their views but are worried about pissing people off.

You won't ever please everybody so don't even bother trying to and if they try to get up in your face and you know what you've done isn't a big deal just tell the scumbags to fuck off.

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