How to achieve peace of mind

To find a balance in yourself, it is not necessary to meditate for hours, looking at sunrise or sunset. It is not necessary to go to the mountains in proud solitude, or to a monastery. It is necessary to understand who you are. In any other case, your attempts to create a balance will be useless, it's like putting batteries into any device with the wrong side! Until you find a side with a "plus" and a "minus" - no device will work. You ask, what does it mean to "understand yourself"? Begin by honestly confessing to yourself: some things in this life prevent you from living. It is not necessary immediately to proceed with their elimination. It is enough that you will think about yourself, because thinking about your own psychological comfort, you are already making a huge step towards a new life.

After you realize that the existing relationship can hinder development, it is necessary to remove the ballast of the past. This is one of the most difficult tasks, any psychologist will tell you the same thing. As a rule, the wounds are hidden very deeply because of the prescription of years, and, sometimes it seems to you that the problem is no longer there. However, from time to time, thoughts continue to visit you about what could be "if", or about that you are to blame for what happened in your or someone else's life troubles. Feelings of guilt are the worst that you can endure from the past. You are not so powerful as to influence someone else's life, so that it does not happen: death, parting or quarrel - you would not change the course of events, even if you acted differently. I remember an excerpt from a film in which the hero tried to save his beloved from death, and each time "overplayed" the situation, but the result has always remained disappointing. Instead of regretting what happened to other people, take care of your present, put it in order, and after a while the event will be perceived by you quite differently.

The past constantly pursues most of us. We meet people whom we would like to forget, we store things that have long ago been thrown away. But, hiding behind problems that have not existed for many years, we do not have time to enjoy today. Life can be different. If you do not "block" the flow of fresh air, constantly trying to enter your mind and feelings. You are not only able to learn not to hinder this process, but, on the contrary, to help. It is then that long-awaited harmony and happiness will come to your soul. To accelerate the process of transformation, link up creative energy.

Imagine that you are a writer, telling about yourself in the third person. What would you say about yourself? Something like: "In a dark, stuffy office, a 35-year-old woman sat looking at the ceiling with a deep disgust for herself, her work, her husband (lover), and for life as a whole." Most of us think about our life in this way. Let's try to change this old tale and tell it in a new way? For example, like this: "That day she suddenly felt a huge surge of energy, and realized that everything can and should be changed. She opened the window and inhaled the fresh autumn (winter, summer) air. She was still young enough to believe in change, and decided that today is the most suitable day. " And then tell yourself about what happened to your character the next year, let's say. How she found her husband, or friend, how she had a child, a job of her dream and so on.

Then hide a sheet or notebook with the story for a couple of months in the closet. After some time re-read the written. Most likely it have already come true.