Why You Are Miserable...
I've noticed something about myself in the last few days. It's like my fire has gone out. I haven't been as excited about life as I usually am.
I'm a very bubbly and upbeat person even when my life seems too hard. But lately, I haven't been that woman.
I Then realized something.
It's almost like my brain resists being in a bad mood or sad state. Because whenever this happens. I go into a state of deep thinking to figure out what is wrong.
My life hasn't been bad at all. July was a great month. I went to Wendover and spent a week in Colorado. It was a ton of fun.
I Don't Have Anything to look forward to
Lately, I've been hoping that something would happen with my boyfriend and I, But it hasn't yet. Last month I finally questioned him about it and realized he wasn't even planning it. It broke my heart, But I somewhat expected it.
It's important always to have something to look forward to! I'm all about living in the moment. But it's easier to see an "exciting" and happy future when you have something planned. Like a vacation.
I've always noticed that before a vacation I get super upbeat, And if the vacation is months a way, I spend months being super excited.
So even if you are just going to a concert Or a smaller event! Plan something.
Don't Let Your Life Be Easy!
I noticed something else.. I've been somewhat comfortable lately. Doing the same thing every day, Attempting to scale my shirt business. I've also been trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong so I can fix it.
Obviously, I can't give up now, Because I'm probably pretty close to seeing the results I've been working so hard for.
But the problem is things have become easy. And when your life gets too easy, It's easy to become bored and ungrateful.
This is why it's important to step out of your comfort zone a little more, And change up your experiences, so this doesn't happen as quickly. I also feel this is why many people who are working a job feel this way,
Things in life can quickly become repetitive. Have you ever had those moments when you get up in the morning, Or you're about to go to bed, And you know there are certain things you have to do to get your day started successfully. And it just feels so old and repetitive.
Rolling out of bed, Making your bed, Changing into your day clothes, Putting a bra on. Brush teeth, Move my fan next to my computer, Turn my computer on, heat up my breakfast. Sit down at my computer desk to start working.
I do this every single day, And it's necessary. But it gets old. I just want to get through it faster. But then my day is the same as yesterday. It's easy to get stuck in this loop. That is why It's important to break your routine, so you don't experience this as often. It also important to continuously do new things, If you only do what is easy, You can't grow.
When you become too comfortable, You become miserable.
Do what you are avoiding!
Sometimes those bring the most success and fulfillment.
Lately, I've been focusing more on my Shopify store. It's something I put off because It's not as fun as uploading my shirt designs too, but It has serious potential because it's based on the Amazon platform. This will allow me to accomplish my goals outside of my business. It's like that saying When it rains it pours. But the reverse is also true, When one area of your life is going well, More areas are also more likely to be doing well!
So get out there, Break the routine! Have things to look forward to and take on challenges.
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So your boyfriend is not thinking about your future together? He's not even planning for it?
Well, that's ok. YOU do the planning and tell him what you are planning. Tell him to get with the program.
If what you want is marriage etc, then tell him. It doesn't have to be next week, or next month or even next year. But tell him that's what you want and that you are planning for it.
He will either
1 - run away
2 - say he's not ready
3 - say he's not ready, but secretly plan stuff
4 - say he's not ready, but come around to your way of thinking after he's had a bit of time to process it
5 - totally get on board wit it
Whatever it is, putting off the discussion, while it might seem the safest approach, is not really helping.
hows that for stepping out of your comfort zone? Risky enough for you?
I told my wife a short while after we moved in together that maybe we should set up a meeting to have a discussion about the possibility of talking about maybe thinking along the lines of sometime in the future being open to a conversation about the possibly remote chance that we might one day get married.
She phone up Crete that night and invited half of the island to our wedding. the church and priest were booked, the venue, food and wine sorted, rings made - all before I even proposed.
So you never really know when someone is going to surprise you ;-)
Thank you!! We've talked about it at all. All he ever says is " I don't know" which is incredibly frustrating. And our first serious talk was 2 years ago. He's still saying he doesn't know. So at some point I may have to cut him lose.
Awww I love that! Your story sounds so sweet heheh! I would love for a surprise, But I don't want to get my hopes up. I let it drive me insane for a very long time haha.
What I would do is tell him you dont want to pressure him in any way and its fine and you will need to keep your options open do you will begin to see other men, he obviously shouldn't expect to have you all to himself, and continue to see him, only if you want to. He'll either step up or he won't. You deserve to be on the path to the relationship you want. I'm working on an article along these lines.
Thank you! You should share it with me once your done! In case I don't see it. I really like that advice. Thank you so much! It helps a lot because this is something I've been really hurting about.
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I will, I just saw this, sorry. I wrote some other articles along these lines...I'm running out the door to go to sleep study right now but when I get settled in I'll come back and give you the links. You'll get through this! xoxo
Here you go: The Upside of Getting Turned Down in Love - https://steemit.com/love-dating/@soulsistashakti/the-upside-of-being-turned-down-in-love
Wow bro your story is fantastic!!!! you are the luckiest man on Earth!!!!!!
hehe thanks. Yes I am, and my wife makes sure to tell me that every day ;-)
lol luckyyyyyy
I usually like to start day with the fun, urgent, but not important tasks.
I am trying to rewire my brain to move towards the hard, important task that will help me achieve my business goals.
I love that! I need to try that! Thank you for this.
Don't let your boyfriend bring you down. You should meet my girlfriend she knows I disappoint her all the time but thats because no one can read minds! Like she cant read mine and I cant read hers
Thank you! I agree we can't read minds! Thats why I'm trying a more straight forward approach. But so far it hasn't worked on his stubborness LOL.
being miserable is quite a choice! We are completely responsible for the state of our temperament and emotions. we cant run around and blame people or the occurrences around our lives for our feelings swinging.....take responsibility and control your feelings. peace and happiness comes from within.
I agree 100% Thats why I go though "Phases" of sadness. I then correct it and move on.
That eclipse... So excited for it! Last weekend I went to Joshua Tree specifically to see the starry night. I'm a dork.
This post really connects with me on a deep level. Awesome post. Upvoted and resteemed.
THank you I'm glad it did :)
Great post, really made me think about my repetitive daily routines that can subconsciously bring my mood down without me really realising.
Upvoted and followed
I'm sure he will pop that special question at the right time :)
Thank you :)
I doubt it, We've been together for 6 years now . At this point he never will . Hhaa I wish He would though.
This deserves some attention. Upvoted and resteemed :]
Thank you :)
I quit my job about 4 years ago, and now a former friend of mine who does what I used to do, is getting married and asked if I could cover for him this month, I couldn't find a good excuse to say no, so I am working and I tell you once you are a bum which is what I have been for the last 4 years working is a very sad experience, all I want right now is for August to end.