RE: LetsTalk—Can We Be Brutally Honest Without Hurting People?
This was good and balanced, friend. I think people falsely associate honesty and frankness with being rude, but it need not be so. Honest and kind feedback, even if critical, ultimately communicates care and concern for the person and a desire for things to be better and often even have the person improve.
But.. just because someone will take offence unnecessarily, doesn't mean we shouldn't speak. Some people will be offended if you say anything than that they ought to be worshipped. For those, you just do your best, maintain your own integrity, and say.. oh, well.
I'm really working on being sincere across the board, and am learning this I only truly possible if sometimes I offend! The purpose isn't offence, of course (I hate people who just like to stir the pot.. so dumb and wasteful of precious human energy), but it is sometimes a consequence of integrity and the truth.
Great post. Xx, Kay
You are absolutely right! People aren't necessarily that open minded to being told upfront about things and how they really are. Being sincere is a good way to go about things. It separates the the good people from the bad ones very quickly in your life. I've learnt that over the longer time frame, it's better to speak your mind (it doesn't have to be totally blunt and hurtful but direct, even if a little less direct sometimes) goes a long way in keeping things simple. Time is our most valuable resource. Beating around the bush only wastes time in the long run! :D
So glad to have a kindred spirit on this. Mature people actually appreciate sincerity and honesty, and prefer their friends to be honest, as long as there is also a consistent attempt to be kind and gracious--which really is possible.
I agree! Most of the time you can just spit out your thoughts to your closest friends and they take it and you expect them to do the same. Call the bullshit on you when you are in the wrong. Ideally that's how it should be I think...
Great to know your thoughts on the matter. I'm not alone in think this way haha!