My [M20] girlfriend [F19] of 7 years died in a car accident in front of me. I am completely broken. I need some support. UPDATE: My brother decided to end his life..
If you don't remember/haven't read the original post, here it is: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/9bmn5k/my_m20_girlfriend_f19_of_7_years_died_in_a_car/
As you see from title, my brother decided to end his life two days ago. I am his older brother, I am 23 years old while he was 20. That day, when he posted on reddit, he came to my house (I live in another city), and he decided to stay. We had a long talk, and I was trying to make him feel better, even though that was a hard thing to do. He also showed to me his post on reddit and told me how helpful you guys were, symphathetic and what not.
Unfortunately the loss of his girlfriend completely destroyed him. He lost over 10 kgs in just approximately 1 month, he was simply refusing to eat, only a few meals here and there, and even though after some point he decided to seek for professional help, as you also guys suggested him, that didn't help him at all. I was trying my best. Until the day he decided to do that he was living in my house, he took a huge break from University so he could focus on healing himself.
Two days ago I was at work, and he was at home, as always. When I came back I saw something that I hope none of you ever experience in your lives.. He hanged himself. It hurts me saying that. It was rather unexpected. Even though lately he was showing some warning signs to me, I never thought he would actually do that. About a week ago he decided to stop going to the psychologist that was taking care of him, and when I asked him for the reason, he said "it's just not needed anymore".
Right next to his dead body there was a letter, and he actually said a bunch of things.He thanked my parents, me, and everyone who was supporting him till the last moment. Even you guys. He said he was sorry and his last words were "tell mum and dad I love them. I can't keep up with this anymore. I am sorry. I love you".
I tried my best all those weeks to cheer him up, to go out with him and make him feel better, but he would always refuse. I don't blame him. Losing someone you truly love and are in a relationship with for 7 years is not an easy thing. Even more when you see that person getting killed right in front of you. I am in a complete shock, life was unfair to my brother, and he unfortunately couldn't make it. We were always so close to each other, and he was an amazing brother, an amazing person. It really sucks to say the least. I soemtimes feel it's my fault.
I felt the need to inform all of you since he posted here a couple of weeks ago and got a huge feedback. I want to say a big thanks on behalf of my brother and from me aswell. You guys are amazing.
Thanks once again.
P.S: A few comments here are saying how this is fake, a made up story. If you think that's the case then it's ok. I am not here to argue or try to persuade any of you, but to rather inform you because a couple here showed much interest and genuinely tried to help my bro. Sucks to say but things like this do happen, and experiencing such is awful.
As for the rest of you, thank you people for the nice words.
Bonjour à toi !
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quelque chose ou quelqu'un à mis deux grandes épreuves devant toi,c'est pour que tu les surpasses,cela vas être dur mais ,après cela le reste seras comme une promenade de santé,accroche toi ,avance chaque jour même un peut,et après tout cela ,dans quelques temps,tu diras merci à celui qui t'auras mis ces épreuves devant toi ,car si tu les passes tu seras tellement fort pour ceux que tu aime !
ça vaut le coup,ça vaut le coup !!!
omg this is true ?. I'm very sorry for your loss and feel so bad. the only thing I can tell you, is that things go through something. Right now you need be strong, If you need help with anything, here I'll be
Be strong. Move on and find comfort in friends
My heart and prayers are with you. Be kind to yourself and know that some day you will see your brother and his girl again. I've died and come back this life and know for surz that this is a test here. We are here to learn and grow, we are souls in a body suit, this third dimension is the hardest most challenging state in the multiverse. We are only species given free will, tricky biz. Breathe Deep, know that you are loved and that there is no vibrational blame, only compassion, forgiveness and love will see you through this. Perhaps a loving kitty or doggie could assist you in calming the adrenaline you are experiencing. Skullcap, Valerian, lobelia, must keep drinking lots and lots and lots of water and lemon etc. Warm teas and Vitamin C is crucial for your healing right now... if you need to talk or listening ear... find me at [email protected] WE ARE INFINITE STARDUST... you WILL see your brother again maybe in a different form, the wheel of karma is real, forgive it all.... Love and Prayers to you.
Are you my friend?
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