if I can bring myself to let go of anything and everything this man did to me I pretty sure there are some of you that can do the same.

Yeah, this is true. Forgiveness takes time and courage. Forgiving is different than forgetting, that's for sure.

I can imagine he looks at you differently these days. You're not a little kid anymore. Hearing him telling that story about the guy who said "just one more thing" then hung himself - he's talking to you as a man talks with a man. He sees you differently now. @ironshield