Effort is between you and you
They don’t know. They don’t care.
If you were to tell people how sausages are made they would probably stop eating them for a day.
Get a little mad at you for ruining their precious meal.
If you took them to the factory where they make them they might stop eating them for good.
People don’t want to know about the process.
They enjoy the end product. Instant gratification. No hassle.
How come you look so good?
“Work out 6 times a week. Eat healthy. Track your calories if necessary. Drink enough water. Sleep well…
“Yeah yeah c’mon. What’s your secret? There’s no way I would have the time for something like this. It has to be easier. Get me ripped NOW.
“Well, honestly I was just born this way. I don’t even work out.
“Ah. Delighted. A light smile returns back on their face.
Did you feel that?
Somebody just got a little uncomfortable. Even mad.
Only because you told them what it takes to achieve their goals.
People will hate you if you openly talk about your sacrifices. Given they even care.
Well, they probably do. They don’t care about excuses but they care about somebody overstating what it takes.
They can’t fathom that it’s not a simple overnight process.
But a journey they could take on as well. If they would get off their lazy mindset. If they would get lucky and win some special talent in god knows what kind of lotto.
Nobody sees what you do on a daily
Nobody sees how many books you read. Research you do. How much you learn.
How many calls you make.
Meetings you take.
They don’t see it.
In turn, there is no one to cheer for you.
It’s a double edged sword.
On the one hand side, nobody cares how much effort you put in. On the other hand side, they won’t want to believe you.
Only you can judge if you gave it all you got.
Put in whatever is necessary.
Made the right decisions. The right sacrifices.
It doesn’t matter if or how often you fail.
You only have to win once. And then everyone can call you an overnight success.
Ridiculous.
But who cares?
We’re not selling hope here.
Being a super-hero is a lonely endeavor.
One where you have to take care of yourself. Remind yourself of why you’re doing what you’re doing. Check your own progress. Hold yourself accountable.
And most importantly, make sure you don’t regret. Be happy. Live life.
Like self esteem. It's how you view yourself which is most important. Once you see yourself negatively it can be very damaging.
Awesome post. :)
Exactly - that's why I just remind myself that I am awesome! :)
The voices only speak up when they get uncomfortable. They only get uncomfortable when we take action, make changes, create something new.
Thank you for writing this, because I want to make sure to read this frequently. I think when one talks about accomplishments, there is a tone of satisfaction, pride and confidence that could easily lead the listener to believe that the journey and struggle involved were simple and effortless. That also explains the disappointment after more clarification of the bigger picture. When this happens, hold onto those feelings of success very tight.
Woooow! I absolutely love this! Thank you so much @ikigai for sharing this, it is very, very inspirational and encouraging to me.
So many truths. I need this kind of reminder all the time unfortunately. I have so many things to work on.........I need to make a list.
Try to replace "I need to make a list" with "How can I start today?" Much less anxiety!
Ansolutely right. That is what I always say. If you see a good-looking and good shaped person - don't believe the fairy-tales that "he/she does NOTHING for that, or that it is NATURAL". That is the most spread bullshit.
We usually carried away and forget why we are doing the things we are doing...
Great post! There are no short cuts in life!
You are so right. We have to always know our reasons why we started what we are doing and never forget it. When people want to drag you down, it is only because they don't want to work for themselves. They are just jealous and don't want you to success.
Keep working & believing in yourself! Thanks for this post!
I also made a post about negative people: https://steemit.com/life/@jessicalu/stop-connecting-with-negative-people-say-no