Actually i think need to find good balance between self determination, and following of other forces.

Taoism has a lot to teach on that regard.

Its bit like sailing, its always the art to keep your direction and getting there as fast as possible using wind forces and currents even if they dont go exactly in the direction you want.

There is always some part of energy from others and circumstances that you can use in order to get where you want.

You cant always do everything alone, and getting against the current is also somehow waste of energy and frictions, and its better to know how to use those forces and how they can get you closer to where you want to get at, rather than wanting to get everything only through your own will power.

Even if the feeling of total surrender to external force can be daunting due to trust issue, it can also be very powerful, to become more in tune with the global flow of things, to align your will power with it, rather than trying to bend everything with sheer will power.

Specially with the kundalini experience, learning to also surrender to external influence, also translated to internal energies, can save a lot of stamina, and avoid lot of psychological pbs, of inner conflicts, neurosis etc.