FLIRTING Pain In The Ass or Not? (types of men-women and advice for making it better)
Flirting ahh what a pain in the ass or actually not?
If you dont want to read it all and want only the conclusion go and read from the AND WE GET TO THE CONCLUSION AND MY ADVICE part
We all know what flirting is we've done that, we witness it and it's still happening. I am not gonna write tips but truths and this isnt just a typical post of ''how to win a girl'' or ''what to say for 100% chance to get laid'' but what i believe is a good way for better flirting results that both men and women will benefit from
In this era we are living flirting has been very hard in terms of Face to Face thats why internet takes the first place. We get to see flirting from social media,to many dating apps way too many because of the huge decline in finding ''the right one'' by other means.
But why is this happening? please tell us!
BECAUSE MOSTLY ALL OF YOU ACT LIKE IDIOTS
What i mean by this is that in face to face flirting we get to see way to stupid behaviours and ''acting'' but let me give you a couple of examples:
THE WANNABE MAN
I believe ladies you all have faced him at least one time in your life. He is the one that thinks he is too cool and can have any woman he wants to with his lame pick up lines like ''can i have a picture so i can show santa what i want for Christmas'' or '' Are you google because i have found everything i searched for'' and if you wanna go one step further there some stupid lines like ''wanna f@@" or showing how strong he is, or even try to kiss you!
i suggest not fall from a guy like that
THE RICH BOY
This is one of the most annoying beings cause on the one hand we got a man with money a good car, nice clothing maybe a bit famous in his area and on the other hand many of you ladies that ''somehow'' you fall for this type just because he was money or fame( and you know what i am talking about)
INTERNET FREAK
That one is the type that keeps sending you nonsense on social media even nudes photos of him or messages like ''hey babe'' ''you are so hot'' ( in every photo of you) and more inappropriate pick up lines
Hell no dont fall from that guy either
Now its girls turn
I AM A MODEL
Those are somehow like the rich boy, they are girls with way to much make up , specific slut outfit that think they are higher status and deserve the best( that means rich or famous) and the others are just commoner that shouldnt even address to them, you will meet them anywhere especially in well known shops and clubs
guys stay far from them
I GOT A BOYFRIEND
There is no man on planet earth that havent seen something like this or witness it himself. You find a girl you like and after a battle with yourself you go and speak to her and just before you finished your salute the ''i got a boyfriend'' pops out that sometimes followed by walking away or pretending you are not there. It may be just a walking away with a strict look on you like you try to beg for money or sell her something. Ah and dont forget that when you talk to them they may take out their phones and take the ''keep talking to yourself'' pose
In case you got a boyfriend there are nicest ways to say it read below!
AND WE GET TO THE CONCLUSION AND TO MY ADVICE
i could easily write more types but there is no point to make this tiresome. What i believe should be done is be kind with everyone both to men and women and what i mean by this is that when a man aproaches you with a comment of ''hi i am xxx i find you handsome'' or ''hi i like your outfit'' in general if he is kind to you then be kind too. If you dont like him you can just say it in a polite way '' thanks you very much for your compliment but at that time i have a boyfriend'' (if you have) or '' i am not interesting for those reasons but thanks'' or even give him advice for next time.
If you keep doing what you do and treat them like beggars or losers dont expect for things to get better and dont expect polite aproaches either. these kind of people if they try 1-2-3-5 times and the result will be like i mentioned then they wont do it again out of disappointment and either join a dating site or wait for a girl to make a move. At the same boat men should be too and treat girls with respect!
Ahh and girls dont expect the guy to awlays make the first move, if you like him go and talk to him, the ''men are the hunters'' is old news and if you still think it like this then what are you? ''the pray?, the animal?''
Finally, give them a chance, if you like what you see or want to be 100% sure give him/her a chance and go for a date, if on the other hand is not kind on his/her first aproach you can respond howerver you want to they will deserve it! There are really nice guys and girls out there and usually they are the ones facing these ''problems'' instead of the stupid ones
In case you wonder about me, i never make the first move,i havent had problems from the time being cause girls aproach me but from what i have seen when i see a woman i like, i tend to overthink if she will be kind or try to ''play it i am better than you' then i will answer back and the result will be pointless irritation from lack of manners
BE KIND IN FLIRTING
I Will tag some girls here(first time i do this, i dont know if i do this here or on the comments so i am going to do both :P, sorry for that in advance!) on steemit that i follow in order for all of you to hear whether they agree or not and what their perspectives are
@baharoba @Inber @KristinaljFom @krizia @mariandavp @noemilunastorta @princessprose @playfulfoodie @radicalrebelove @sweetsssj
Still i want to here what everyone is thinking about this and i hope you read it or at least a part of it :) i could write way too much more :P
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@baharoba @Inber @KristinaljFom @krizia @mariandavp @noemilunastorta @princessprose @playfulfoodie @radicalrebelove @sweetsssj
This is an awesome post, man! And I agree with your conclusion. Men don't need to do all the work. We are living in an era where women are capable, independent and strong. They can pay for their own meals and I believe they can certainly talk to guys they like.
I also firmly believe that telling the truth appropriately is the better way. And by appropriately, I mean straight but not rude. Don't beat around the bush. So if I like a guy, it would not be a problem for me, telling him. Similarly, if a guy likes me and I like him, too but not that kind of like-to-date like but maybe just an admiration of one person to another or a friend who can keep a good company, I would certainly tell him immediately. I believe it's better to hurt him now, than keep his hopes high only to hurt him in the end. I've encountered these situations in the past and the guys cope, either by staying as my friend, keeping their distance from me or finding a new girl. There's just one thing I'm certain, they're cool, now. And we're good. We still talk, sometimes.
Lastly, flirting, on my opinion, should be done mutually. If one doesn't want it, he should say so. Don't put yourself in a place you shouldn't be. How will you know that that is not your place? I say, you'll know it when you are not happy, anymore. (Except when you are a sadist, a masochist, a nutjob or any maniac who finds pleasure in any type of pain)
its as you say, if you be clear from the start in a polite way then only good can that bring, either the guy/girl will move on,or be friends or just wont get disappointed in a hard way except if he has psychologic problems then go to the police :p
Oh! The police!😂😂😂
I like you!
(not in a flirty way. please be polite)
:P i will i will
is this a serious post?
yes with a dose of fun, you have different opinion?