RE: ADSactly Personal - Tell Me Your Scar Stories (And I'll Share Mine)
My parents break up is the biggest scar i have had to live with. I always felt like i don't have a place...always felt like i don't fit in.I spent too much time in my childhood wondering how things changed so much for us after the break up that i did not realize that time was passing by.
I woke up one morning and it dawned on me that while my family imploded and covered my face, life had gone by outside the shores of my home.
Friends had grown and moved on, cousins had gotten married and had kids etc. And i felt like i just couldn't fit in anywhere.
Today, i am a working class girl who earns some good money... a lot of people call me pretty and a lot of guys just want me by all means. I smile and try to mix up with every one but deep down i feel like i am just a spectator..like i really don't fit.
I Am slowing getting over it with a lot of effort...cos i don't want my husband and kids to have a scarred me....so I am working to reduce the effect of the scar.
But I still wonder how i would have turned out or how my life would have turned out if my parents had never divorced.
You've been through a lot emotionally but after a long time it seems like your slowly getting better and better. All the best to you and your family.
Thank you . I am stronger, wiser and better.
Hello dodiexcel. Wow, that is so deep. When I was young a family moved in next door. They had two boys who were more or less the same age group as me and my siblings. We played hockey together. Time passed. Their parents go divorced. I moved out and on. But, I have heard of the boys since. I think the oldest was negatively affected and never got over his parents divorce. Love is so deep and the pool so rich. I am glad you have a family and comprehend the importance of maintaining the innocence, solidarity, and love for your children. Yes, your life would have been different if your parents had not divorced. But, you would not have had this family you have now. Because of your scars, you give them the incredible gift of your love everyday.
That's true. loving them every day almost makes the scars shrink and get smaller. thank you and keep steeming it.
I can really understand this, my parents got divorced when I was 5 and I felt like I never fitted in. The sad thing is I have gone and done the same thing to my kids, but it was a better option than staying together. I hope that I can show my girls they always have a place.
I am sure you will show them that....because you have learnt from experience. Your girls will love you more for it. all the best.