Life is often a mess like that paint can. Just use that really big eraser and remove them from it! It sounds like they need to fit in more with people around you than you. Who cares what the rest think.
Find someone you enjoy enough to want to build a life around. What you find in your inner self that is important are the core things you more than likely want to have in common. Everything else is a nonfactor as it’s great to have your own thing as well. Those things tend to be religion, politics, law, and dessert.
How is your inner self seperate to religion, politics, law and desserts?
It's not, maybe I miss wrote the way you are understanding of how I wrote it. Those tend to be some major arguing points for many. If those things don't line up most seem to struggle even more if its deeply seeded within their cultural/family values.
Ahh, now I see your point more clearly.
Sorry if no sleep enjar is far more confusing then normal. Have a wonderful evening :)