This is a controversial topic precisely because a marriage is such a personal thing between two people.

I would say that love must be grown and cultivated, and a marriage should be more compared to a garden than an edifice, it must be constantly tended and maintained.

Communication should be at the top of any list involving marriage, I agree with you there. There is a lot of good advice here for those in a marriage partnership, but certainly the marriage pact is not for everyone, and it could be better for some people to never get married.