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RE: Why you should let a man be a man
Its called the Crisis of masculinity, and basically our fathers are the once guilty for it. I am writing a case study for my University, ill post a summary and a conclusion when am done. Also as a Sociologist and someone who hadn't had a male role model and was forced to learn more about men and female dynamics I know a lot of good books to recommend. So hit me up if you are interested.
I'm not too sure dude. My Dad can be blamed for a lot of things, I mean he effectively destroyed my childhood when all my Mum wanted to do is raise a kid to be loved, in our dynamic you'd be right, it was mostly my Dad that was to blame, but I've worked a lot in the Mental Health sector; ended up in senior management before I gave that up to seek my riches, and what I can universally state is that I've seen too much horrors from both men and women. I really can't pin the blame on one sex.
My idea is working together to create a better life!
I agree with you both are to blame, but fathers are responsible for us as men, and I feel that they are to hold accountable. As you said it "It's really not Mum's fault though, I mean she only knew how to teach me to be a woman because she is one."
Yup. Mum still made the choice to stay with Dad though, even though she knew she had many warning signs. I just can't see blame as a healthy thing! Not in my opinion, anyway :)
Once you have your book it'd be an interesting read, I'm always up for being proved wrong :)
The study I write will be in Serbian, but I'll translate it as a summary, and post it as soon as I publish it.
Followed, hoping I don't miss this summary/conclusion. In America, men are practically barred from publicly speaking objectively about this, so it can be difficult/impossible to get a frank male perspective on this.
Would you consider making a post with a list of these book recommendations with a synopsis of each? My current reading list is like two miles long but this is a subject area of great interest to me. Cheers.
Hey Annie thanks for following me. I have to say that my study title is "Crisis of masculinity among fathers is modern-day Serbia", but neverteless the cause of the crisis is the same - losing symbolic capital. My literature is mostly on English anyway, because few scientist in Serbia covered this topic. The most established name in what is known as "gender studies" is Raewyn Connell an Australian sociologist formerly a men, but for my theoretical framework I used "Theory Of Practice" by Pierre Bourdieu.
Thank you for this generous response and recommendations drumsta. I'm not sure how much I want to learn about gender issues from someone with gender dysphoria, but I will definitely check out Theory of Practice.
If I may offer a reciprocal recommendation, I recently read the book Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin, that offered a very different viewpoint from most of what I've come across in contemporary literature (I think it could be regarded to be in the 'gender studies' field); maybe it can offer some value to you in your studies.
Cheers.