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RE: 11 TIPS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST
I feel like the core issue, which is why I really hate labeling based on the behavior pattern, is that I was convinced I was completely different from everyone else. Sometimes people take that as a narcissistic view of themselves being better than everyone, but it's nothing like that at all for the person doing it. It's just a tool developed to convince everyone else that nothing is wrong. Honestly, once I started fixing issues I kind of gave on the whole concept that a narcissist was a real thing, but perhaps the overt physically abusive and the covert internal rage are really two different conditions. Either way, thanks for the alternative perspective and hopefully I provided some food for thought.
I understand you hate labeling based on behavior patterns. I don't have that relation with labeling, it is like anything else that can be use for good or ill.
Sorry @clayboyn I disagree with you when you try to explain narcissistic behavior based on the ends of the narcissistic behavior. If you really want to understand what goes on in their minds please read my article PEEK INSIDE THE NARCISSIST'S MIND
Going back to labeling. Take an example a person that kills people. If I don't give you the context you don't have the whole picture to proceed, or in this case to label that person. If I tell you that person that kills people is a soldier of your country, or that person is a psychopath criminal, or that person does medical assisted euthanasia in terminal patients. Although the aim of the behavior is the same, the context in which is done will alter our perception and meaning of it, and consequently the label attached to it.
It's fine to disagree it allows for additional perspective. My view is that morality and perceptions are relatively subjective. I prefer to base mine on my own beliefs and not a superego societal norms. Personally I feel that society has become so far gone at this point that to use the skewed condemning views of a society that finds it more comfortable to toss blame instead of looking within for comprehension of why you would allow yourself to be emotionally abused as an adult if something wasn't inherently off with you in the first place. Codependency enables narcissistic behavior, so removing codependency could also be seen as a cure. Ultimately we are all responsible for ourselves.