RE: You Should Wear A Warning ⚠️ !!! It's dangerous, I'm falling 😱 - TOXIC PEOPLE ☠️
I have a toxic friend in my life that is very narcissistic. it gets really annoying sometimes. you can never tell a story without him one upping you in some way. Usually i wouldn't hang out with people like this but we had a heart to heart once and i realized that all his narcissism stems from some abandonment issues he had when he was younger. After i knew that i felt kinda bad for him. Ive got him to open up and realize that the shit he does is what puts people off of him. He's been getting better at taking responsibility for his failures but narcissictic people are so hard to change. sometimes i feel like we are making headway when its just me and him then other people walk in the room and he goes right back to his old ways. I wanna help the guy out but Narcisssistic people are so hard to change.
Narcissistic people never change. Look at Trump he's been a narcissistic asshole his whole life.
...but the phrase "Fight FIRE with FIRE" comes to mind, politicians are the worst narcissistic a$$holes ever, and all the NA's that Trump pisses off every day warms my heart :D
All the career poly-ticks are much worse than Trump, my Friend! ;)
I beg to differ my friend. I'm not a fan of any politicians left or right so i agree their all a bunch of assholes but i still think trump takes the cake. He bankrupts construction companies cuz he refuses to pay them. Refuses to pay those little girls that danced for his rally's. Insults gold star families and makes fun of disabled reporters. All the guy does is brag about how amazing he is. If we had a "don't break an arm jerking yourself off" olympics trump would be first ballot hall of fame.
...that is why he's the perfect "TOOL" to smash this totally corrupt and bankrupt political "system" we are caught up in! I think we agree more than disagree, my good man! I LONG for relief from the DC corruption cabal, I just hope it happens SOONER rather than Later! God uses the foolish things to confound the wise, and our current situation bears that out IMO...
Your comment makes me smile ;)
FOLLOW @cookiekush cuz U have a good counterpoint to my view :D
I see what u did there LOL. Ya i hope something changes but odds are really low. I just wish the people would stop fighting each other and realize that is what the people in power want. divide and conquer while they reap all the benefits. I hope crypto takes down the Fed. I feel like alot of our problems stem from the central bankers.
Take Heart, odds of Something BREAKING, and therefore Changing are getting better Every Day! There are those at work behind the sense with this as their life's work, to restore America to it's former greatness, and I don't mean MAGA!
The central Bank$ter$ are the root of ALL our Problems, IMO. They have eroded the morals of this great country to help further their agenda of Control.
HAHAHAHAHAAHAA dude i can't firkin stop laughing right now it hurts
Trump is a retarded piece of shit!
some people think Hillary is a narcissistic, but since I don't know either Hillary or Trump personal I can't say either way.
Well, one indicator for a narcissist is that they are lying a lot.
They won't accept to be busted even so you have proven them wrong.
If it's unavoidable they will find some excuses.
They don't generally change, nor do most personality disorders. However on the contrary, narcissism is in fact more likely to be 'cured' at some point by life experience than most of the other PD's are to be 'cured'. Thus "never" is not quite correct.
you nailed it. nothing changes people like a self-realization that they want to be different... nothing else really works.
although I agree that a person can change I have never know a narcissistic person to change. these people are parasites, they have learnt early that feeding off other peoples kindness is an easy boost for them. so they never have a motive to change.
Critical introspection is difficult for a narcissist, that is why it is rare for them to change. They actively avoid the kind of thinking that would allow them to recognize their own faults, and therefore be motivated to remove them. However 'difficult' and 'rare' are not synonyms of 'impossible' and 'never'.
Once a narcissist does recognize their problems and has a desire to change, they can find greater success in doing so than most of the other PD's.
The older they become, the worse it gets.
Narcissist have a good chance to get cured when they are getting help by psychologists. In reality most of them won't seek professional help. Instead they will suffer from becoming old.
Especially their self-esteem gets more and more damaged by not looking young and "perfect" anymore. They are lacking of efficiency as well.
When they realise that their lifetime will end without them being able to fill the emptyness inside their heart they become badly cold-hearted.
It's true, narcissists can change (though they still might be a little egotistical by nature). My ex-husband-soon-to-be-husband-again is proof of that. And yes, I think it was life experience that changed him.
Nice, hoping the best for you!
Thanks for the up-vote, @snowpea ;)
Toxic people are parasites, they live off other people's energy. As we cut them away they lose their lifeline. If they don't find another source, they might eventually learn there is a source within them and their toxicity will vanish.
they must do it themselves. they must want it deep down, so deep that nothing else matters.
i try to help these people too, but realize that i can only help if they want it... all else is vanity.
"his narcissism stems from some abandonment issues"
This explains so much the "i know it all" attitude of some narcissistic fellas i know. When in reality they don't know nothing and are just making a big scene to absorb your attention to them. They feed on your good energy and spit it in your face if they want.
Great comment. Your perspective is a very clear one, and you seemed to have much care for your friend.
Back a few years ago I learned that we see ourselves one way, we think are friends see us another way, and then there's the way we truly are. We often forget to step aside and look at ourselves. Nobody wants to do that lol.
Maybe paired him with another narcissist so he could possibly get a reflection of what he does. Best wishes :) - @splendorhub
I totally get what you are feeling. in my opinion, Most of us have those kind of people in our lives. You have a kind heart and you want to help. You do what you think you can but don't let them affect your life. when you start involving too much so to get them better, reflect back on if this is pulling you down ?. At the very least you got this person to open up ad had a heart to heart talk, that is already a starter for your friend to face his/her issue. Thank you for sharing your story with us !!!