oh... look after yourself! That funny vision thing doesn't sound good at all... good that you had it checked out.
My wife also struggles with the change in expectations from before the children to after... although our lives are more balanced (in child-rearing loads) due to our freelance work as musicians, I think that somehow, it does seem to affect the mother much more... after all there is the 9 months of carrying and the breast feeding, all of which can't be fully replaced by the father...
Find time for yourself! It ends up being better for everyone!
Thank you. Yes, so many moms end up depleted and push themselves too hard. The neurologist more or less told me to meditate, focus on mindfulness and lower stress levels. But we moms do need to take care of ourselves, you're right. Better for the whole family. ;)