Assumption

Often times, we assume things without being sure or making efforts to find out what the real deal is. And this act of assumption often times cause us huge losses and even relationships. Which really is sad.

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Most times, we assume so we can stay away from reality, other times, we don't want to ask questions because we fear that we may look stupid and on some occasions, we just don't want to put a little bit of effort into research or practice.

But well, reality will always be out there waiting. While you might look "smart" for not asking that question that you thought might sound stupid, you know that deep down inside of you, you are not being fair to yourself for not asking. And while you try to avoid that research, you probably know that you may have to pay for it later.

Most times, we know this little truth but because they seem so little, we assume that we can just let it slide without feeling a thing! But the truth is, these little truths aren't always as small as they may seem. And when that realization hits, it hits really hard.

Try and save yourself the headache (and even heartaches) of dealing with issues when your assumptions go wrong. But when you assume and it ends up badly don't be too hard on yourself because it really is okay. See it as another great opportunity to learn, grow and move on.

For some reason, we just can't get rid of this whole assumption thing from our lives. Could it be that assumption offers some sort of comfort our mind, giving us the ability to create our own little world in our mind?🤔

Whatever the reason why we can't totally get rid of it is, I am sure assumption is there to serve some sort of purpose. Maybe for times when we have incomplete information and need to urgently compete it without any source of help or clue?

Well, while a bit of it used at the right time could be helpful and healthy, too much use of it and at times when there are better options can be really unhealthy to our being.

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There are times when we find ourselves doing this assumption thing subconsciously. For example, I could be relating an experience, thought or feeling to someone and somehow, I may leave out some little details which I thought the person is supposed to (know?) Or just fix it in the story by themselves...

When we assume, especially while communicating with people, messages get lost. The information we so badly wanna communicate to the person gets stuck somewhere and if the person doesn't end up asking questions, well, that break in communication stays there. And you know how things can get sometimes with even a slight break in communication.

This kind of assumption has become a part of me, I think it has more to do with learning how to communicate effectively. I am trying though, trying to be more aware of what I say, being more present in conversations and paying attention to details ( you can even ask yourself questions, it does help in communicating your thoughts and feelings better)

Don't assume people know your thoughts, relate it to them if you want to be understood. Don't assume you can't do it, try it first. Don't assume it is supposed to be a short trip, do your research.

Assumptions might seem like the easy way out but it often times comes with a whole lot of risk that you may not want to take, so why not put in a little more effort into finding out more...

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Your assumptions may turn out well sometimes, and other times, it won't. But I do believe that there is a greater joy that comes with being aware of the steps we want to take or being sure that the person listening to us gets the message we wanna pass across. So, put in that conscious effort, practice and keep assumptions away!😊

Much Love — Audrey❤