You've raised some good questions. But your repeated use of the word "offer" makes me think we are constantly in negotiation for a business deal. For me, dating is about just exploring the loveliness of someone I'm attracted to. End of story. I leave the whole thing open ended, safe in the knowledge that I can and do provide for myself and my child, and that I am complete whether I currently live alone or share space with my lover. It's all good. The self-reflection is great. But let's just ENJOY the sparks of romance.