Funny thing was that while I was listening to you, the radio was running and ,yes, I focused on what you were saying. Let me see if I get it right: if you are over weight you have two options of getting motivated , but one is negative and one is positive. I believe option two will work because it's a positive thinking. "I want to be fit". The first option it's "I don't want to be fat" the brain doesn't understand what "no" means, is that right ? So make sure you keep a positive thinking everyone.