O I can so relate to this post - went through almost the same situation with 'The spermdoner' as we call him - but what a wonderful realization that we could stand up and are so much better off with them gone . Being grateful comes in some misterious ways, and sometimes takes us some time to realize why we need to be grateful, Great post once again.
hahahaha @anneke - that is precisely how we (not Jude, but my partner and I) refer to him too... lol
Yes, you are very right. Time is a great healer!
Thank you for your always valid input xxx