I’m probably go off topic a little bit but I think the point you make about threatening a persons identity is really incitful. People has very powerful dialogues about how they want the world to see them, and most of the time they convince themselves that their narrative is reality. If you threaten that identity they push back really strongly. Everybody is like this to some extent and I think explains why so many topics are difficult for people to have conversations about. I could write an entire post about this. In fact I just might just do that 🤔🤔😂