Sounds like the history is they won't pay it back. If so, then yes, you have to go into it as a gift and be pleasantly surprised when it comes back. If it's habitual, you might do well to find a way to learn to say no, or wean them off by giving less than they ask for. I said ask for because in this example it's really not a need. If they ask for say $1,000, give them $500 and let them know that's all you can spare, But truly, only you can answer the question because only you have to live with the consequences.
I like your suggestion. Give less then they need and slowly wean them off. BRILLIANT IDEA
No one but you needs to know how much you actually have :)
And you choose how much you can spare. Or are willing to spare, so when you give them whatever amount and say that's all you can spare, it's the truth, no guilt
True, that way I'm not lying. That is important!
I kinda figured it was for you
You know me so well <3
educated guess ;)
So well educated! <3