Self-help guide for students

in #life8 years ago (edited)

I was correcting a paper from my student today and it triggered in me a chain of thoughts that I would like to share here. I will try to analyze a typical student-fail situation with you. Hopefully, it will serve us as a lesson to learn what not to do. 

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I don't think it would be appropriate to use my student's real name, so I will use a fictitious name from a book I am reading. I will call him " Yossarian " (from Catch-22).  

So Yossarian is the classic very smart-very reserved guy, a talented person that is constantly achieving much less than what he deserves. The first time I met him it was during the student's presentation day. It was an opportunity for students that spent a year doing research in biomedical engineering to stand up and show off their work. Yossarian spent one year doing research for a surgeon. Very few people get this opportunity to directly work with a surgeon and be able to perform research that can have direct impact in the clinic. 

Most academic researchers have to spend years demonstrating that their ideas are worth exploring, before catching the interest of people that are linked to the clinic. Yossarian was offered a short-cut and needless to say, he managed to underachieve and have ZERO work done in a year. In Italy we have a say for this kind of situation: "Some people have teeth but not bread, while others have plenty of bread but lack teeth to eat it". 

Italian bread, you definitely need teeth to eat it - Source https://www.lacucinaitaliana.it

On the surface it looked like he was just a lazy student, but I had the feeling that he genuinely tried, that he had the qualities but lacked proper guidance. 

Obviously nobody wanted Yossarian as a student for the following year, so I decided to give him a chance. I have to confess, from my side it wasn't just kindness, I also wanted to test myself and see if I was capable of leading others and making them successful. 

With Yossarian, I tried to test the pygmalion effect, which states that "the belief in another's person ability brings that ability to life". So we spent a year working together, as I suspected he had talent and he was smart, but somehow he could not stop from shooting himself in the foot all the time. His tendency to complicate his life made my job very difficult. 

Most people think that to be successful you need talent, Yossarian is the living proof that talent is not enough, the missing ingredient was "the right attitude". 

This post is quite long already so to be more concise I will try to make a list of some of the most common mistakes I noticed from students:

  • Spoonfeeding: it's normal to find bumps on the road, Yossarian was expecting me to tell him what to do all the time, even when he already knew what to do. Especially when you supervise several students it's very energy-draining to take care of everything. Your boss or your supervisor will definitely appreciate if you come up with solutions, not just problems and expecting the solution to be spoonfed back to you all the time.
  • Low self-confidence: people say fake it until you make it, don't listen to them, that's crap. However, you should stop doubting yourself too much. Telling yourself that you are not capable of doing something it's a form of procrastination. It's a cowardly way to avoid dealing with problems. Yes, it's uncomfortable as hell to step out of your comfort zone, but that's how you grow. Your self-doubt can be your worst enemy, you should always ask yourself: "what's the worst that can happen?". We live with so many fears, most of them never materialize.
  • Lack of focus: we all have problems, yet when you are at work you should leave your personal tragedies out of the door. In Yossarian's case his problems were taunting him everywhere, student debt, shitty apartment, exams, arguments with his girlfriend and the existential dilemma of whether pineapple should be used on pizza. They distracted him so much that he could not focus on anything. Thoughts are going to inevitably flow in your mind but you have to learn to compartmentalize your thoughts, ignore what's distracting and chose to focus only on what's useful for you at the moment.  Please NEVER suppress your thoughts, that's how you get something pinned in your mind and won't leave you alone. It's called ironic process theory. For example, if I forbid yourself from thinking about dancing bears, you are not going to stop thinking about it. Ignoring a thought it's better.
  • Continuity: you can be more productive in a couple of hours of intense work rather than 8 hours of occasional commitment. Yossarian was basically working day and night, yet he could not get anything done. I noticed that he would often work one hour then go somewhere and then come back and do another hour. That's a recipe for failure.
  • Don't sweat the small stuff: if you want to be successful you need to learn to make difficult things look easy. Yossarian was a genius in making small problems look insurmountable. He was just making his life (and mine) more difficult.  
  • Low expectations: Don't set the bar too low for yourself. Sometime I am amazed by the lack of ambition of students. If you don't believe in yourself who else will?
  • Procrastination: Do you know why we procrastinate? Because we think about our future self as a different person. We always presume our future self will be healthier, have more time and more energy than ourselves. This is why we tend to postpone doing things. That's how Yossarian was constantly struggling to keep up with his daily tasks.
  • Questions: I appreciate curiosity and I encourage all my students to ask me questions. However, we need to be selective on what we ask because each time we answer a question we consume will-power and it can be exhausting spending an entire day with someone that asks you all sort of meaningless stuff. I also include emails in here. Try to limit the amount of emails you send, think ahead of what you want to ask and if you want an answer ask a question, so many times I receive vague emails where it's not clear what the student meant to ask. When in doubt I don't answer.  
  • Planning: Start your day knowing already what to do. Yossarian was coming to our lab clueless about what he would do during the day, by the time he was figuring out what to do, it was often time to go home. Perfect example of how you get nothing done.
  • Habits: our brains love habits, if you do something always at the same time and in the same way it will get easier to perform this action over time. You want to make your life easier.
  • Be curious: try not to hate what you do. You should always try to find a way to enjoy and be curious about things. This way time will fly and you will require less energy to get work done.
  • What could I have done better?: You should always ask yourself this question. Strive to improve yourself, always. What is death if not immobility?Be dynamic.

Oh man, this is hell of a list already and I could add more stuff. The good news is that after a year I was able to get Yossarian to write his first manuscript that hopefully will be published in a scientific journal. That's much better than the NOTHING he achieved the year earlier. But, it's not over yet. Right now we are going through edits and revisions. Slowly Yossarian is changing his attitude and he started generating outcomes from the work he is doing. Unfortunately, his masochistic side is still alive and well. He still struggles to perform the simplest tasks and correcting his article is a nightmare. Ironically, like the Yossarian in Catch-22, right now he has a few people that feel the impulse to kill him. 

Are you still thinking about the dancing bears?

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Very useful helps. If I found this in college, and took it as seriously, I would have made a much improved Yossarian.

TOTALLY UNRELATED: I could suggest a thing though, how about a profile picture to your account to give it another layer of verification? I understand doing that is so not-straight-forward, but it is sure worth the stress.

Thank you for stopping by, you are totally right about the profile picture. I was thinking to make a logo for it, but I will definitely add one soon

You have identified many potential problems but I kind of find myself wishing you had talked more about the solutions and tactics you employed to bring Yossarian to the point where he is close to submitting a paper. Maybe a follow up post? Was it truly just the "Pygmalion Effect" - all you had to do was believe in his abilities? I have a feeling this would be shortchanging the actual effort and tactics you used to bring him along.

In no way does my above comment detract from what a great article this is. There is so much to chew over just in the long list of common mistakes - this should be required reading, not just for students, but for LIFE! I also really appreciated your writing style, conversational and easily accessible. And yes, dancing bear. Will be thinking about that a lot today I am sure. Damn monkey mind ;)

Much love - Carl

Hi Carl, I appreciate your thoughtful comment. I agree there is so much more to say about this topic but I received complaints that my posts are too long so I tried so squeeze in as much as I could, if you are interested I don't mind writing a follow up post. Feel free to make a list of things you would like me to cover. I think feedback-based posting would be great for me! Thanks

LOL I am guilty of writing posts that are too long myself, so maybe I am not the best one to take this kind of feedback from! I think a few of my posts are pushing 5,000 words. I think what I meant as a follow up post was that I am interested in hearing more about what actual methods you used, in the day to day, with this student to help overcome the problems you so exhaustively listed. People management is such a nuanced skill, and of course it is hard to give advice that is universally applicable because it all has to be tailored to the individual. That being said, I think you did such a nice job giving us the context and a sense of who this student is here in this first post, that a follow up with examples of specific techniques that you used to work with this student would be really helpful. Cheers - Carl

Thanks, honestly I found that writing stuff help you organize your thoughts and sometimes you feel like you have to follow your own advises. I am working on a follow up post, it will come up in an hour or so, stay tuned!!
Also when I will get a chance I will check you out as well, I like your attitude and most likely you must have plenty of interesting things to say. Sometimes people share so much and it's our loss if we don't listen to what they have to say

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Forrest Gump : Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.

It seems to me that this doesn't address the point very well. I think that the idea is more about what you do when you receive or take possession of the chocolates that makes up this life.

I suggest you avoid the option of seeking out dancing bears. Bears get grabby with sweets.

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That is a lot to think about and you have analyzed it very well. There are some problems I've seen but never really seen the root of. I particularly was struck by your thoughts on procrastination:

Telling yourself that you are not capable of doing something it's a form of procrastination.

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we think about our future self as a different person.

I wish I'd seen these things sooner!

I think there is much to say about each of these thoughts, if you are interested I can cover them further in my future posts. Each time I see someone coming back to read my posts it makes me feel great. Without readers, ours would be just a voice quacking in the void.

I have this post bookmarked

I find myself relating heavily to "Yossarian" and my habits are becoming very counter-productive, I'll be sure to use your list to help break those habits. Thank you for this post.

Thanks, the fact that you are aware of your mistakes and that you strive to improve means you are already doing pretty well on solving your problems, keep doing this!

By the way, i hope you are not my student, that would be funny

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