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RE: When You Catch Someone In A Lie...
I think there are a few things to consider. The first trick is to figure out why they are lying. There are reasons why people lie, be it shame, embarrassment, cruelty or kindness. Note I put two very diametric positions on there. If it was kindness, such as setting up a surprise birthday part or stories about the Easter bunny then I say just support it. If it is because of shame, then don't condone the action, but have empathy. If it is out of unkindness, then then confrontation is in order, and ultimatly, if they are a repeat offender, then they are probably not a person you'd want to be around.
All of this advice is very situational, but above is where I think you should start.
Wise words coming from experience it sounds like. I sense you have been in a similar position. Thanks for your input! Keep doing what you do! I am glad to have your thoughts - especially regarding confrontations -great perspective.
I found out after rooming with him that my first roommate in college was a pathological liar. Still interacted with him after I found out, but it was always such a balancing act because it was a mental illness . Only after his lies started hurting my friends did I have to cut ties with him and I still wonder if I did the right thing.
Now I’m struggling how to show my kids that lying is bad except for sometimes.... shades of grey are never easy.
It is very hard to explain the difference between lying to Mama and saying “you’re beautiful no matter what”. And lying to Mama saying “I didn’t eat the last cookie”. Haha
I will just keep trying to do my best. I keep telling myself that I’ll show them how it’s okay to not be perfect by example. That’s why I believe it’s okay to admit you were wrong to your kids when you goof up.